he doesnt understand PLZ HELP LONG STORY

[teenmom1998]

So I'm 17 my boyfriend 18.. me and my boyfriend been together for almost 3 years I'm 7 weeks pregnant with our first baby he works a factory job 5am til 5pm I understand he wants to relax when he gets home so I cook and make sure everything's clean the usual stuff wat ever. Its like he's dating his boys one of them at least comes over everyday because he tells him to so he comes to smoke (weed) together my boyfriend tryed a few times to get me to smoke he knows I'm pregnant and everything I hadn't smoked since I found out it would usually calm me down.. Well he's been going out downtown with his boys drinking and smoking and wanted me to go with I'm pregnant and gonna be babysitting drunk guys? No I'm ok I'll be bored when he's all walking ahead with his boys it was hot to so I'll be hungry and crabby and sore feet from walking so I didn't go stayed home (moms house) his boys r always there it's driving me crazy I even broke out in tears one night when we were trying to go to sleep because we were talking about it not that I hadn't told him before but I just couldn't take it no more so I told him everything how I felt he acted like I never told him hugging me and all said srry blah blah so next day his boy cousin got shot in the head so now he said he needs to be there for his boy I understand but what about me? His boys cousin is a gangbanger what do you expect to happen when walking around? I know it sounds mean but gangbangers know What can happen and chooses that life style.. Caused and agreement and he went to his boys house for a few hours left me alone at his moms house bored.. Now his other boy works with him and my boyfriend picks him up for work and drops him off or hell even come over after work with my boyfriend Idk what to do any more

[SerenitysMommy21]

I still don't find it okay. You two are in this together and he's not respecting how you feel. You have the hard part of pregnancy, he needs to suck it up and be an adult. Now, not oh maybe later on. He needs to realize you and this child come first. He shouldn't be trying to get you to do all this stuff that's dangerous to you and baby. He should also be spending more time with you!

[tyonnamarie]

Your only 7 weeks pregnant.  You have a long process ahead of both youm. Give him breathing time let him cope how he wants to its not like your ready to give birth.. you can still live your normal life. And so can he. If he doesnt change when your further along then it's something you should bring up to him but at the moment id personally let him do what hes doing. Its his way of coping with the new situation.

[brookerob]

Yeah I agree with teen_mommy2015. I understand weed isn't a horrible drug, but it definetely shouldn't be used while pregnant, that's almost like asking to get your child taken away from you. I know what your going through when your boyfriend only wants to go out with his friends all the time. Mine used to do the same thing. Alot of times guys don't really fully comprehend there is a baby coming and they won't come to the realization of it until later in your pregnancy. I hope everything works out for you and he realizes you shouldn't be drinking and smoking weed and that he needs to spend more time with you. Good luck.

[teen_mommy2015]

But its also not allowed in pregnancy here in the state of texas as of 1-1-15 if you have any kinda illegal drug in your system the day you give birth or fail a drug test at a doc visit CPS eill snach your baby so quick its unreal!

[gordo89]

Smoking weed while pregnant hasn't been shown to harm an unborn child. Do your research and it will tell you Its good for you. And nausea. I'm about 6 weeks prego with my second child. My son is now 6. I smoked weed my whole 1st pregnancy. He is actually excelling in school. As far as your boyfriend, id say give him some time
Then an ultimatum. He has to grow up Now....good luck

[teen_mommy2015]

Girl as harf as it might be.. all that stress just isnt healthy for your precious  :-/  if he isnt going to listen to your feelings and stay he with u now that ur only pregnant what makes you think hes gonna change for your child whrm he/she is.born? And weed isnt a "bad" drug but it can still get your child taken from u! Obviously he dont care about your baby if he is trying to get u to smoke weed and drink ! Sorry girly but I think its best for you to either lay down the law on your feelings or hes gotta go cause your baby comes first now! Coming from someone that was in ur shoes and is now 29 weeks 3days pregnant