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EXTREME anxiety about becoming pregnant
My boyfriend and I are both 17. We have been together for 3 years.
2 months ago I was perscribed the pill for the first time for my acne. (For the book, I have never missed or skipped a day).
My boyfriend and I had sex both for the first time on Dec 22 (today is Jan 14). We properly used a condom, and I took my bc as normal. He did not climax.
I had my period as normal Dec 26-28.
We had sex again Dec 29. Again, we properly used a condom, and he did not climax.
HERES THE REAL QUESTION...
I have been incredibly paranoid about the very slim chance I could be pregnant. It is causing me to become distracted and loose sleep. I often start crying in class because it is all I can think about...
I have not had any real pregnancy symptoms (nasuea, etc). I have been iritable, but it may just be the anxiety.
My concern is that I will never be able to trust the birth control methods, even as an adult. I do not want to be this paranoid.... it is tearing me up...
And I understand that this is VERY irrational.
I want to continue to have sex with the person I love, but I do not know if I can deal with this anxiety...
ANY ADVICE?
2 months ago I was perscribed the pill for the first time for my acne. (For the book, I have never missed or skipped a day).
My boyfriend and I had sex both for the first time on Dec 22 (today is Jan 14). We properly used a condom, and I took my bc as normal. He did not climax.
I had my period as normal Dec 26-28.
We had sex again Dec 29. Again, we properly used a condom, and he did not climax.
HERES THE REAL QUESTION...
I have been incredibly paranoid about the very slim chance I could be pregnant. It is causing me to become distracted and loose sleep. I often start crying in class because it is all I can think about...
I have not had any real pregnancy symptoms (nasuea, etc). I have been iritable, but it may just be the anxiety.
My concern is that I will never be able to trust the birth control methods, even as an adult. I do not want to be this paranoid.... it is tearing me up...
And I understand that this is VERY irrational.
I want to continue to have sex with the person I love, but I do not know if I can deal with this anxiety...
ANY ADVICE?
If he is not coming inside you, you will not get pregnant - especially if hes using a condom, and you're on birth control.
In fact, since you are on birth control, he could probably not use a condom at all, and you would be completely fine. I have had several boyfriends who refused to use condoms, and it was fine.
lastly, dont be so worried about pregnancy! Its not the end of the world, really. Its actually a wonderful thing, bringing life into the world. You life isnt over just because you get pregnant, it actually becomes even better. I knew many girls youre age who couldnt wait to get pregnant. I still think its better if you wait until you are a little older, but the point is, that even if you got pregnant right now, everything would still be ok!
In fact, since you are on birth control, he could probably not use a condom at all, and you would be completely fine. I have had several boyfriends who refused to use condoms, and it was fine.
lastly, dont be so worried about pregnancy! Its not the end of the world, really. Its actually a wonderful thing, bringing life into the world. You life isnt over just because you get pregnant, it actually becomes even better. I knew many girls youre age who couldnt wait to get pregnant. I still think its better if you wait until you are a little older, but the point is, that even if you got pregnant right now, everything would still be ok!
It sounds like you're not ready to have sex yet. I understand you love your boyfriend and you want to have sex with him but if you're so worried about getting pregnant that you're crying and losing sleep than you're not ready for it. No method of birth control is 100% effective so anytime you have sex you are taking the risk of getting pregnant or getting STDs. The only way to be sure you don't get pregnant is to remain abstinent. If you use birth control properly it's much more likely you won't get pregnant but like I said, there's no method that works all the time.
Best thing to do if you feel u want to continue to have sex is stay on you birth control and using condoms but once a month buy a dollar store pregnancy test and that will help put your mind at ease. But good job on being responsible to use birth control properly and using condoms..
Agreed with the women above^^^ your not ready and stuff like they said
Honey you are not ready to be having sex. My best advice would be to stop for now and give it some more time. If it's stressing you out this much, you don't need to be doing it. If your Bf loves you, he will understand. No birth control is 100% I got pregnant on the pill and with a condom because the condom broke. Until you can feel at ease and feel ready to raise a child if need be, I would wait.
If you are that paranoid all I can suggest is don't have sex if you aren't ready for a baby. Birth control methods are not 100% all have a failure rate.
You need to calm down I'm only 19 and pregnant with my first child so I know what your feeling! One thing that should really help you is to get to know your cycle so you know your ovulation days and you can avoid sec on those days and continue with birth control as long as you are careful and don't slip up you will be fine just CALM DOWN!
Maybe you just aren't ready for the responsibility. Nothing wrong with that at all and I'm sure your boyfriend would understand. In your heart you know if you are truly ready or not. Don't allow anyone to pressure you into doing things just take your time hun.
U need to calm down lol
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