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How would i tell my parents?
My parents already are mad at me for not being home at the time I was supposed to be home so I'm grounded...and let's just say my boyfriend isn't there favorite person. But I love my boyfriend to death and I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with him no matter what they think. But the point is. I think I could be pregnant... If I am I'm going to wait a little to figure out what me and my boyfriend will do then eventually tell them. But I'm afraid they will I'm a disappointment and then think this is all his fault which it wasn't. We talked a lot about having sex and he was no where near pushing me to do it and we used protection..It just broke. I really can't stand being away from him...I already know how they will act...they will be super pissed at me and him... But I don't know how to explain to them it was just an accident.. I don't want them to think even worse of my boyfriend.. Please I need advice. If I'm pregnant we will be keeping the baby.
First of all you guys made a great discussion that u will keep a baby.. ur lucky i was not.. and ur parents care about u that's why they are mad at u they are not ur enemies.. ask ur boyfriend tou talk with ur parents or send his parents to urs so that they can sort it out on the other hand ur parents will not think that ur boyfriend is using u if he sends his parents .. if not then talk with ur parents calmly make them understood they will understand em sure..
best of luck!!
best of luck!!
Alright first things first, I am in no way going to invalidate your relationship with your boyfriend. I understand completely that you CAN meet the love of your life in high school (I don't know how old you are) and that you can stay together. My hubby and I are high school sweethearts of 4 years with a baby already and a wedding next year. I get it, I really really do, I promise.
BUT why exactly do your parents hate him so much? I know it ***** to hear, but most of the time parents are right about things. Its hard to see while you still live with them, but you'll appreciate them and their opinions way more once you're on your own. I know not all parents are understanding and accepting even if there's no reason not to be, but for your parents to hate him like that something must have happened? And how long have you been together?
Secondly, if you are pregnant (again no idea your age) but if you ARE, then cuddos to you for keeping baby and planning to make it work. Thats great and a hard decision for some to make.
But I'm going to be real with you that babies are hard, its the hardest (and best) thing that I've ever done in my life. No I'd never change a thing or give up my daughter in a million years, I love her to death. But its so hard, and if I didn't have hubby there to support, and help, and love me I honestly don't know how I'd do it. Becaue pregnancy *****, people say how beautiful it is and how its this amazing feeling but the only good part about pregnancy is the baby. I was sick for 7 months(which is much lengthier than most, yes) mostly all day all night. I had to stop working because it got so bad and my boyfriend became our sole provider (which is stressful on him but its what he wants). Again, I LOVE my daughter and my hubby. But babies bring a lot of stress and tension to a relationship. They put them to the test, and sometimes I'd like to strangle my boyfriend. Because we're real adults now. With our own bills and car and apartment, we have to buy groceries and diapers, we have to manage our money (which is a hard thing to learn) and we need to do it all without jumping down each others throats and murdering the other (so far so good).
I don't care how perfect your relationship seems now, I don't care if you've never faught a day in it, you're going to. Its going to happen. You're going to yell and cry and worry that you've ruined your entire life (you haven't I promise). But then youll work through it, you'll come out better because of it and you'll understand each other more. But if your boyfriend isn't the type to stick around, if you don't think he can handle stress and pain and tears, long nights, dirty diapers, arguments about nothing and everything, and being there for you for whatever you need emotionally. If you don't think he can do all that, if you have any doubts, then please don't alienate your parents just yet. Whatever they say, however they react, they LOVE you. They do, I know its hard to imagine but they love you more than they love anything else in this world, there's probably not a thing they wouldn't do for you. So don't say **** them and move out, never talk to them again. There may come a time where you NEED them, where they're the only ones you can go to.
When you tell them you're pregnant, just sit them both down (or do your mom first and let her tell your dad it depends on how they are). But sit them down and just come clean. Just flat out say, "look I'm pregnant, were keeping it. I love you I want you to be involved and want you to be able to love this baby like you love me". They may be mad, they probably will be. Don't fight with them, don't argue, if they start to yell just say " I know this is hard on you, its hard for me too, so I'm going to let you take this in and accept it and when you do we can talk more" YOU need to show them you're a mature adult who can raise a child, who can do this (and you can). Your parents will eventually get over it and come to love this baby as much as you do.
This might be a maturing point in your life (if you end up being pregnant). If not count yourself lucky and be more careful. But if you are pregnant like you think then this is going to get hard. But I want you to know I didn't say all this to scare you, I wanted to be honest, if not brutally so. Pregnancy is painful and gross, you'll see things and learn things you couldve gone your whole life without knowing. But that baby is beautiful, its this amazing beautiful, wonderful little being who is your responsibility. You need to love them, feed them, clean them, play with them, provide for them, and everything else they could ever need or want. That's your job and you may wish it away sometimes. But for the most part you'll LOVE it (even covered in spit up cleaning poop).
You can do this, don't doubt yourself, and don't be too stubborn to ask for help. Take some time to think, really think about what you want to do, and do it. There isn't anything you can't do if you want it bad enough. Good luck! And message me if you have any questions or need someone to talk to, I definitely don't have all the answers but haven gone through somehing similar myself I think I could help.
BUT why exactly do your parents hate him so much? I know it ***** to hear, but most of the time parents are right about things. Its hard to see while you still live with them, but you'll appreciate them and their opinions way more once you're on your own. I know not all parents are understanding and accepting even if there's no reason not to be, but for your parents to hate him like that something must have happened? And how long have you been together?
Secondly, if you are pregnant (again no idea your age) but if you ARE, then cuddos to you for keeping baby and planning to make it work. Thats great and a hard decision for some to make.
But I'm going to be real with you that babies are hard, its the hardest (and best) thing that I've ever done in my life. No I'd never change a thing or give up my daughter in a million years, I love her to death. But its so hard, and if I didn't have hubby there to support, and help, and love me I honestly don't know how I'd do it. Becaue pregnancy *****, people say how beautiful it is and how its this amazing feeling but the only good part about pregnancy is the baby. I was sick for 7 months(which is much lengthier than most, yes) mostly all day all night. I had to stop working because it got so bad and my boyfriend became our sole provider (which is stressful on him but its what he wants). Again, I LOVE my daughter and my hubby. But babies bring a lot of stress and tension to a relationship. They put them to the test, and sometimes I'd like to strangle my boyfriend. Because we're real adults now. With our own bills and car and apartment, we have to buy groceries and diapers, we have to manage our money (which is a hard thing to learn) and we need to do it all without jumping down each others throats and murdering the other (so far so good).
I don't care how perfect your relationship seems now, I don't care if you've never faught a day in it, you're going to. Its going to happen. You're going to yell and cry and worry that you've ruined your entire life (you haven't I promise). But then youll work through it, you'll come out better because of it and you'll understand each other more. But if your boyfriend isn't the type to stick around, if you don't think he can handle stress and pain and tears, long nights, dirty diapers, arguments about nothing and everything, and being there for you for whatever you need emotionally. If you don't think he can do all that, if you have any doubts, then please don't alienate your parents just yet. Whatever they say, however they react, they LOVE you. They do, I know its hard to imagine but they love you more than they love anything else in this world, there's probably not a thing they wouldn't do for you. So don't say **** them and move out, never talk to them again. There may come a time where you NEED them, where they're the only ones you can go to.
When you tell them you're pregnant, just sit them both down (or do your mom first and let her tell your dad it depends on how they are). But sit them down and just come clean. Just flat out say, "look I'm pregnant, were keeping it. I love you I want you to be involved and want you to be able to love this baby like you love me". They may be mad, they probably will be. Don't fight with them, don't argue, if they start to yell just say " I know this is hard on you, its hard for me too, so I'm going to let you take this in and accept it and when you do we can talk more" YOU need to show them you're a mature adult who can raise a child, who can do this (and you can). Your parents will eventually get over it and come to love this baby as much as you do.
This might be a maturing point in your life (if you end up being pregnant). If not count yourself lucky and be more careful. But if you are pregnant like you think then this is going to get hard. But I want you to know I didn't say all this to scare you, I wanted to be honest, if not brutally so. Pregnancy is painful and gross, you'll see things and learn things you couldve gone your whole life without knowing. But that baby is beautiful, its this amazing beautiful, wonderful little being who is your responsibility. You need to love them, feed them, clean them, play with them, provide for them, and everything else they could ever need or want. That's your job and you may wish it away sometimes. But for the most part you'll LOVE it (even covered in spit up cleaning poop).
You can do this, don't doubt yourself, and don't be too stubborn to ask for help. Take some time to think, really think about what you want to do, and do it. There isn't anything you can't do if you want it bad enough. Good luck! And message me if you have any questions or need someone to talk to, I definitely don't have all the answers but haven gone through somehing similar myself I think I could help.
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