doubting

[TeenMomma99]

Im 16 and pregnant.  This was never supposed to be me . Ive found myself on my own with a baby daddy just waiting till the baby gets here to get me out of his and our sons life .  Ive always wanted to be a mother many people told me one day i'd be a great one. But i wanted to be older i wanted a family . My family is moving to flordia and i dont want to take my son away from his father i grew up without one i dont want that for him but with my babys father saying id only see my son when im over to visit and with me not having anyway to get my own place or anywhere to live i dont know what to do . My sons father has it easy with a great family to support him. Im beginning to doubt myself i dont want my son to have a life like mine, so unstable. Idk what to do or how ima finish school but i dont want to be a drop out . I dont want to be a failure.

[licia31]

I was in the same boat as u I was 15 and my son born when I was 16. It's going to b really really hard I knw. I had no family support at all my baby daddy family supported him but not me. He was just waiting for baby to b born to leave me. But I got a job at taco bell I walked every day in the snow I went to churches for help and the job center got me insurance thru the state and food stamps and even gave me money to get my own apartment and wic so much help out there just start looking and tell people the situation u r in. Trust me u need all the help u can get now but it will work out b strong!

[TeenMomma99]

My family is out of the question my little sister had kicked me in the stomach and my OB and nurse are concerned about me staying there with my baby and me as so am i , i have some support from my mom but not much

[momtobe1stime]

Hi,

Sorry for what you are going through. How about your family. Do you have any family support at all? You cannot go through this on your own.

The father has no right to stop you from seeing your baby. You carry him for 9 months you have the right to your baby. Don't let him take him away from you. If you have to involve the authorities do it. Babies are a blessing!

I would suggest you move with your family. They can give you support with your baby as you also try to finish school. Babies are great but require aot of work and being alone will be difficult for you. It sounds like you cannot depend on him for anything. As for growing up without a father just try and do what you can. If the man doesn't want you in his life then your baby is going to grow up without a mother. Is that what you want? You cannot force to be with the baby daddy either, babies can feel it when things arent right with parents.

If he can visit you and the baby then it is good your baby will grow to know his father. Rven if he doesn't, you are young and I am sure beautiful, you can find a man thar will marry you and be there for you and your baby.

Don't be troubled!

[TheyCallMeNaj]

Im sorry that youre going through such BS! Your babies father can't take YOUR baby away from you. Don't doubt what is such a beautiful thing! I know it's difficult to get through things when you don't have much support from family or friends. But your baby boys smiling face will make everything alright! And PLEASE finish school!!! You need a high school diploma for most everything now a days. Add me as a friend or message me if you need to talk!

[LynziNicole]

Your gonna need your family more then ever right now. I know from personal experience. You need that stability your family can offer that your not able to do on your own yet. I understand not having a dad growing up but would you rather have to travel to visit baby dad or risk yourself and your child being homeless and struggling. Having a child is not a walk in the park at any age let alone being a baby yourself.