single mother

[graceynnjae]

Im almost 20 years old. And have been single since I was 17. I now am pregnant by an ******* who used me when I was in a rough spot in my life. I feel like I will never love again bcas guys my age dnt want a girl with a baby. Any advice ?

[graceynnjae]

Thank you everyone for your advice/opinions!! Helps a lot!

[Meliza21]

It's your character and level of responsibility that will lead a MAN to believe you are right for him. Also you having a kid will let a guy, who isn't trying to get to know you for the RIGHT reasons, to stay back because you won't have time for his bs LITERALLY. Your child or children do not make you any less dateable. It's like having a full-time job with mandatory overtime and some guys can't even deal with that.

[specialmom]

I personally would just stay away from men.  The bottom line is that your kiddos need your full attention and dating and the ups and downs that go with it are very distracting from the job of parenting in my opinion.  And it sounds like some time off might do you some good to figure out what's gone wrong with your past choices in guys.  

You'll find someone to love but I would wait until our kids are older or even on their own.  Seems like a long time . . .   but it goes by really fast.  And you hear/read story after story of how a new guy or girl in your kids life mistreat them.  It seems that it is hard for a lot of people to accept another's child as their own and kids end up going through difficult times with mom or dad's new partner.  

good luck

[RockRose]

Haylee,  there ARE guys who like girls with children, and they need LOTS of introspection.

There are a lot of pedophiles looking for vulnerable women with small children.  

[Jaszyee]

Booo, im 20 years old im going to be a single mommy because unfortunately I have a dead beat baby daddy who could give two f**** about me or my baby but I promise you will be ok it gets tough at times because I sit here and remember everything how he made all these promises to me how we were going to have a family together now its kinda funny cause I know KARMA will bite him hard in the a** ! I have a very good friend who I was terrified to tell I was pregnant cause I liked him I didnt want him to stop talking to me & I finally told him when I was 2.5 months and now im 5 months and he's still here with me! :) he even tells me I hope you have a little boy so I could play ball with him he claims my baby as if its his! :) so I believe there are men out there who except that.

[jewels94]

Plus not all guys or age are ready for that even though they like the act that creates a child. You might just need someone more mature. Has a good head on his shoulders. And know what he wants and had already started moving forward in life hun :)

[jewels94]

I'm a single mom too hun and also 20, but not all guys are bad. I'm not dating at the moment but there is this guy that wants to be with me and to also be there for my little girl. I'm just taking things slow because you know I'm 37 weeks prego lol. You will find someone. never close yourself off to love. It will come when you least expect it just don't go looking it will find you. and you're little one. Plus you are already holding the love of your life inside of you :)

[HayleeLongxX]

I know tons of men who like girls with children. Boys dont like it, men do!