Need advice about how to handle my husbands addiction

[JamieCait]

When I first met my husband we were both in the throws of addiction. When we found I was pregnant in June I immediately quit everything except for smoking, though I am trying to quit that as well. But my husband is another story. He initially promised me he would quit everything too but that has proved not to be the case. Every time I turn around I am finding out he has lied and used something I.e methamphetamine, methadone, nerve pills, pretty much anything he can get his hands on. He keeps saying it won't happen again and that he hates himself for doing it but sometimes I feel like it will never change. I love him with everything in me but I grew up with a father that was an addict and I don't want my child to go through that hell. I've tried talking, begging, and screaming and at this point I'm at the need of my rope. He refuses to work, always has and relies on me to take care of everything. I do not and have never believed in divorce but at this point I just don't know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[mommy2many408]

Be strong , remember your an addict as well to what I don't no ... But I it's the same remember after the baby is born he might still be cheating and sneaking off using and this may tempt you .. You will be tired and hormonal having a new baby I don't want the per pressure to capture you .. Maybe  you should seperate for a bit .. Tell him you love him  and why see if he can handle life without both of you maybe that's what he needs is a wake up call ..  It's not about you guys anymore it's about the baby now and as you already have done and showed your  already protecting him/her your gonna be a good mom .. Tell him your afraid an you just can't take that chance does he want this for the baby ? Keep praying your not alone  sending blessing your way Hun

[JamieCait]

Thank you for your advice. I've gotten him an appointment with a therapist and I'm currently working on getting him into rehab. I'm praying that it works for him and our little one

[Sanjivani Wanjari, MD]

HI,
Addictions are not easy to deal with both for the person suffering and the family. If you cannot talk him into quitting then I suggest that you take the help of a psychiatrist. Counselling and drug therapy will help him get rid of his addiction.
Hope this helps. Take care and good luck.