thank for the comment most of these symptoms have resolved or diagnosed as something else (fungus for the anal itch)
but I test at 11 weeks and my results were hsv-2 negative and hsv-1 equivocal 0.92 --should I bother testing again or can I assume that my equivocal result is really negative.
Welcome to the STD forum.
STDs are not transmitted by hand-genital contact and no STD causes symptoms like you describe. They are, however, the sort of symptoms reported by many people with genitally focused anxiety, which seems to me to be the most likely explanation. To your specific question:
a) I don't see how the sexual events you describe could exacerbate your previous prostatitis or result in bacterial prostatitis. These are not STDs in any sense and are more appropriate for discussion with your urologist.
b) Based on your symptoms and the nature of the exposure, I would not have recommended testing for HSV. However, your negative result at 3 weeks is reassuring; over half of new HSV-2 infections give positive blood tests by that time. Since you have started down that path, you may as well go ahead with the follow-up test later (but I suggest 12 weeks, not 10) -- but you can expect it to remain negative. (Even if it should turn positive, it would not explain symptoms of this sort. It would only mean you have an asymptomatic HSV infection plus whatever else is causing your pain and other symptoms.)
You might look up some information about the chronic pelvic pain syndrome (CPPS), which is often triggered by genitally focused anxiety. Google that term (spell it out) and start your reading with the excellent Wikipedia article and the information provided by the Stanford Univ. Dept of Urology, both of which were near the top of the Google hit list last time I looked. You may find the symptoms are similar to yours, in which case you should discuss this possibility with your urologist.
In the meantime, you really should be having no STD worries, and you can be quite certain you didn't catch herpes. So stay mellow as you follow-up with your urologist and await the time for your follow-up HSV test.
Regards-- HHH, MD