Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your question.
I understand your concern; being the partner of two women with cervical dysplasia naturally raises concern about your own HPV infection status. However, you are drawing several conclusions that are not necessarily valid.
First, you cannot assume either of your partners both acquired the HPV causing their cervical dysplasia from you. Since 10-20% of women have cervical dysplasia at one time or another, it is entirely plausible that one man could have relationships with two such women merely on the basis of random chance. Second, you do not know that either of their HPV infections was due to a high risk HPV type. That determination cannot be made without testing for HPV; even "advanced" dysplasia can be caused by low-risk HPV types. Third, as you have already noted, it would be unusual for you to have an active, transmissible infection with HPV (whether high or low risk) that persisted for several years. For those reasons,I cannot say the scenario in your mind hasn't happened -- but it is unlikely.
To your specific questions:
1) As just discussed, the premise probably isn't true, i.e. I doubt you "were not clearing [a continuing HPV infection] for many years". But if you were, I would not conclude you are at particularly high risk of oral HPV or of an HPV-related oral cancer. Even if you had an oral infection with HPV 16 (the type associated with certain oral cancers), the chance you would develop cancer is very low.
2,3) I don't recommend you be tested for HPV of the genitals, oral cavity, or anywhere else, or that you have an ENT examination unless you are having symptoms that concern you.
Oral HPV and cancer are on a lot of people's minds because of actor Michael Douglas's recent revelation that he has had oral cancer due to HPV. For comprehensive discussion, see this thread from earlier today, as well as the other threads whose links are provided there:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1956567.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD