I'm glad I could help. EWH
many thanks. I am reassured. Thank you doctor. will do just as you said. thank you.
had also fingered her prior to putting condom. vaginal fluids got on penis directly from hand when putting condom and got on inside of condom also while manipulating/
anticipated thanks. My whole life depends on this marriage. I made the worst mistake of my life. I do not want to hurt my future wife. We want to have kids.
Welcome to our Forum. I'm pleased to tell you that there is no risk to you for any STI from the activities that you describe. Masturbation (either when you placed you finger in her vagina or when she masturbated you) is not associated with any risk for HIV or any other STI, nor is there any risk to you from transfer of your partner's genital secretions to you on her or your hands.
As for your condom, you can be confident that it was intact until it broke during masturbation. When condoms break, as you found out, when condoms fail, they break wide open, they do not fail with the failure being obvious.
I would not worry about this exposure, it was no risk for any STI including HIV. There is no need for concern or for avoidance of sex with your wife.
I hope this comment is helpful. EWH