Hello Doctor,
I am so worried right now :( I have an ex bf that recently had such a terrible reaction to herpes in his body that his gums & tongue were bleeding, he had ulcers on his lip, face & also many ulcers in his throat that made it hard for him to swallow which resulted in him not being able to eat.The doctor said this terrible reaction happened b/c he had never been exposed to herpes (never engaged before me in any type of sexual activity whatsoever, & b/c of the country he is from it's not common there like in the states so he had no antibodies built up against the virus)
We engaged in oral sex, giving & receiving, no protection, once.
I've never had any symptoms of genetial herpes, never had intercourse before, only oral sex.
Last time i kissed him i had an active cold sore on my lip & in 5 days he had developed the 103 temp. fatigue, sore throat etc that was originally diagnosed by symptoms as strep. when it didnt go away & became worse with the bleeding tongue & gums he was given blood tests for herpes which came back this week as positive (not sure what type yet)
1. is it more likely that he had this bad reaction from kissing me with this cold sore present if he had never been exposed to it prior to meeting me, or is it more likey that the oral sex might have caused this terrible outbreak?
2. what are the chances of him contracting oral herpes from giving me oral sex without there being any present symptoms or me never having symptoms before & also that i've never had intercourse before?
3. if i have only received oral sex 3 times ,prior to this time with him, (5 yrs ago) what are my chances of having undiagnosed genetial herpes & passing it onto to him without knowing it?
4. I've never had a blood tested for herpes 1 or 2, I believe I would be positive for what causes oral herpes, had cold sores all my life...should i get tested for herpes & if the results come back positive for both types does that mean I have genetial herpes & never knew it?