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Let me first explain the ecounter. About a week ago I visited a massage parlor, the woman used her hand on me and I used a finger on her. A few days later I have had some soreness on the tip of my penis, loss of appetite and some nausea. I have been worried sick about STD's and racked with guilt and shame. What I need to know is if there is any chance that I could've contracted some sort of STD from that kind of contact. I am a married man and need to ease my mind of having a STD or giving it to my wife. The guilt is almost unbearable and the thought of losing my family even more so. So please answer my question so I can move past the worrying stage and find some way to deal with the guilt. Thank You for your time.
Dr, Thank you for answering. A big burden has been relieved. I was surprised when they asked me to do the test myself, but I had never been through this before. Then I worried about the fact that I may not have inserted it far enough. She said if you got the cotton past the opening you were covered. She also said that if it was not in far enough they would kick the result back. Hopefully that is right.Your thoughts and I will go away.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
If you have been following the forum, you should already know my reply: The risk of any STD from oral exposure is low, and is zero from hand contact. The additional reassurance of the negative STD tests is virtually 100%, even with uncertain adequacy of a self-collected specimen. (That's wierd, by the way--asking a patient to collect his own urethral swab. Fine for women and vaginal testing, but most men can't handle the discomfort and should not be relied on to collect adequate urethral swabs on themselves. Tell the doc I said so.) Anyway, the chance you caught something from the exposure you describe is in the lottery-winning ballpark. Enjoy Las Vegas.
HHH, MD
HHH, MD
Hey thanks for the comments. My mind is starting to feel more at ease just by talking about it. I've never felt such a burden before and not be able to talk with anyone. 95% of me knows that I didn't contract an STD but the guilt and shame I feel about it has made even the smallest symtoms feel like something much worse. Thanks again for the response, it has helped me big time.
ben-uk is right as the doctor will confirm you will not get an std from a hand job,anyway this assumes that she was infected in the first place which she more than likely wasn't. anxiety is a powerful emotion it can conjure up all the symptoms under the sun and you could find a way to match it to anything especially std's, trust me i know what you are going through i have been there! it is not easy but you have to let go of the anxiety. get tested if you want for your own piece of mind then try to move on and forget it. good luck and dont worry...you are clean
Dr, I know I am probably not supposed to do so, but I am in an urgent situation and can never post a question. As you can tell I am an old coach getting ready to celebrate a big anniversary. Needless to say on a trip I had two escapes (biology got the best of me)which have caused some concern. Both were strictly oral for short periods of time (30 seconds to one minute) followed by hand stimulation. This was 4 months ago. I live in a small town and am well known in the area. I have driven 120 miles to our larger city and have had two STD screens done. They were 2 weeks apart. In the screen they had me do the swab (on myself and it hurt as I inserted about 1-2 CM more than the cotton) and also drew blood for syphlis, HIV and Herpes. All have been negative except for Herpes which showed positive for Type 1 (no surprise as I wrestled, played football in college and I am over 50). My question's are: 1) should I be concerned at all - aniexity is really over whether or not I put the swab in far enough. 2) are these test pretty accurate? I know from other responses that I will probably get yelled at, but I really want to celebrate my anniversary as we are making a trip to Las Vegas (first time). Any short answer would be appreciated as I have come to follow this column.
Dr HHH has mentioned in previous posts that there is no STD risk from a "hand job".
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
The responses from other forum users are right on the money. You are not at risk for any STD from the exposure you describe.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
