Hi doctor,
On 27/2/2013 I had protected oral sex and very brief protected vaginal sex with black female sex worker whist drunk. The following week am v anxious/guilty, wife finds out 4 days later she is pregnant! 10 days later get pain in left testicle & lower back.
Day 12 - went to GUM clinic & tested for:ghonerrea, clamidya, hiv, herpes, doctor could not detect any swelling of testicles. All tests neg.
12-25 days: discomfort on penis head, can see tiny red spot on urethra.
Day 25: Back to GUM clinic. Different doctor again couldn't see anything wrong and said don't worry, ghon. clamidya. and herpes tested again, herpes swab was v painful. Asked doc if OK to have sex with wife again, she said as my wife was pregnant wait for latest test results and if negative then OK. Given emollient cream for penis pain. Also get hep b vaccination. Again all tests negative.
Day 30: have sex with wife, no penetration but mutual masturbation.
Day 37: penis still sore, Gracefromhpp says I still need syphillis/herpes tests - start to panic and worry re: herpes risk for wife/baby! Back to clinic and see doctor, tell her about herpes worry. She again says that it doesn't look like herpes - no lesions. Said definitely not herpes and I could have sex with wife.
Day 36-63: penis still v sore, can't wear boxer shorts and exercising is painful.
Day 63: Penis much better. Hiv, syphillis and hep b testing done - again all neg.
Day 90: back to GUM and have these tests: hiv, syphillis, ghonerrea, chlamidya, and hep b. and private igg herpes test.
My questions:
1) What is the likelihood I may have contacted herpes? symptoms v worrying.
2) Could the non-pentrative sex I had wife my wife put her at risk?
3) If all the tests on day 90 comes back neg, including herpes igg test - can I consider myself in the clear/no further testing req?
4) If you were in my position would you resume having sex with wife?