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Spread HIV to my partner?
I have been in committed monogamous relationship for the past 3 years, however I have met 3 partners in the last 3 months for oral sex. I have some tooth decay as a result of methamphetamine use years ago. My last risky encounter was 2 weeks ago, since then my partner and I engaged in bareback anal sex where I was the receptive partner. He has started complaining that his glands in his throat are swollen. Is it possible I have infected him with HIV? How long can I wait before taking an HIV test that would be moderately accurate in determining if I am infected?
Thank you for answering my question. I am in therapy to deal with my issues with fidelity. I have a lot of anxiety around the thought of infecting my partner with HIV. I am going to get tested on Friday (19 days since my last encounter). Today he went to the doctor who observed yellow pus leaking from his lymphnodes. I couldn't handle it if I infected him. Thank you for temporarilly easing some of my stress.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
You have posted on the wrong site. Questions about HIV belong on the HIV prevention site. I will do my best to answer your questions with this reply but, if you have additional questions or follow-up they must be on the HIV Prevention site. Sorry
Your risk of getting HIV from oral sex (given or receiving is virtually non-existent. The quoted figure for HIV risk, if one has oral sex with an infected partner is less than 1 in 10,000 and, in my estimation that is too high. Some experts state there is no risk at all from oral sex. Neither of us on this site have ever seen or reading the medical literature of a convincing instance in which HIV was passed by oral sex. This includes by all of the people who had tooth decay, gum disease, etc.
It is unlikely that you have HIV from the exposures you describe and therefore it is still more unlikely that your partner has gotten HIV from you. You can get tested to bbe sure. At 2 weeks since your last encounter outside of your relationship, an HIV test would detect over half of infections acquired 2 weeks before. At 4 weeks the proportion of detectable infections goes up to 0ver 90% and at 8 weeks virtually all infections would be detectable. In your case, as I have said, there is very little or perhaps no risk of infection, thus whenever you get tested, it is unlikely that you will find that you have HIV from the oral exposures you describe.
It is more likely that your partner has some other sort of infection causing his sore throat such as a community acquired, non-STD viral infection.
Finally, I mean to be "preaching" but I would point out the your 3 outside exposures make your statement that you are in a committed monogamous relationship incorrect. How you want to deal with this is up to you but in general, honesty is the best policy.
Hope this helps. Take care. EWH
Your risk of getting HIV from oral sex (given or receiving is virtually non-existent. The quoted figure for HIV risk, if one has oral sex with an infected partner is less than 1 in 10,000 and, in my estimation that is too high. Some experts state there is no risk at all from oral sex. Neither of us on this site have ever seen or reading the medical literature of a convincing instance in which HIV was passed by oral sex. This includes by all of the people who had tooth decay, gum disease, etc.
It is unlikely that you have HIV from the exposures you describe and therefore it is still more unlikely that your partner has gotten HIV from you. You can get tested to bbe sure. At 2 weeks since your last encounter outside of your relationship, an HIV test would detect over half of infections acquired 2 weeks before. At 4 weeks the proportion of detectable infections goes up to 0ver 90% and at 8 weeks virtually all infections would be detectable. In your case, as I have said, there is very little or perhaps no risk of infection, thus whenever you get tested, it is unlikely that you will find that you have HIV from the oral exposures you describe.
It is more likely that your partner has some other sort of infection causing his sore throat such as a community acquired, non-STD viral infection.
Finally, I mean to be "preaching" but I would point out the your 3 outside exposures make your statement that you are in a committed monogamous relationship incorrect. How you want to deal with this is up to you but in general, honesty is the best policy.
Hope this helps. Take care. EWH
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