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Testing....Please advice...Stressing Out
Thank-you so much for your time and support. The free forums have been great, but I need some final expert advice. First off I know my situation was low risk, but I have still been stressed out about the whole situation. I have never done this before. I am a male and received unprotected oral sex from an unknown women. I am from the northeast (USA) and she was a white women between 30-35 yrs. old. Oral lasted probably 1 minute and I did climax. The only other sexual contact was me fingering her. No kissing or intercourse. I noticed the next day that there was a small scape on the shaft of my penis....This got me pretty concerned along with the fact that I was no longer drunk and came to the realization of what I had done. It has been Hell ever since.
At 14.5 weeks post exposure, I did a full panel STD test:
Gon and Chlam, (urine), HSV1 and 2 (blood), Syph (blood), HIV (blood) and a throat swab (i have noticed a small bump on one of my tonsils...not sure what it is); Hep B (at 10.5 weeks)
All test came back neg; the swab is negative, but the Dr said it was preliminary. ( not sure what that meant...I did the swab Tues morning and that is what I was told on Friday afternoon. Could something still show up on the swab that many days later?
Questions and concerns:
1. I am married and my wife is pregnant....I am so scared that I am going to infect them with something.
2. The small mark on my penis.
3. I have mild pain periodically in my groin and lower abdominal area (sort of feels like gas pains).
4. I can feel lymph nodes in my groin Don't seem to be sore, but feel firm and are very small (less than 1/4") Should I be able to palpate lymph nodes?
5. I have had burning while urinating only one time and it was after I had masturbated in the shower (not sure if maybe soap or shampoo could have aggregated it) It had been 2-3 weeks since I had masturbated prior to that..
6. How reliable are these test results?
7. How sensitive and reliable are tests now days?
8. Can I trust these results?
9. Can I resume an intimate and sexual relationship safely with my wife again?
10.Please reference my swab question from above.
11.I have been diagnosed with Tinea Versicolor...Is this a sign of any infection?
12. Could I have gotten anything orally from fingering her and then touching my mouth?
13. Should I test for anything else or do I need any further testing?
I greatly value your knowledge and advice. I am ignorant to all of this. My wife has been my only sexual partner.
At 14.5 weeks post exposure, I did a full panel STD test:
Gon and Chlam, (urine), HSV1 and 2 (blood), Syph (blood), HIV (blood) and a throat swab (i have noticed a small bump on one of my tonsils...not sure what it is); Hep B (at 10.5 weeks)
All test came back neg; the swab is negative, but the Dr said it was preliminary. ( not sure what that meant...I did the swab Tues morning and that is what I was told on Friday afternoon. Could something still show up on the swab that many days later?
Questions and concerns:
1. I am married and my wife is pregnant....I am so scared that I am going to infect them with something.
2. The small mark on my penis.
3. I have mild pain periodically in my groin and lower abdominal area (sort of feels like gas pains).
4. I can feel lymph nodes in my groin Don't seem to be sore, but feel firm and are very small (less than 1/4") Should I be able to palpate lymph nodes?
5. I have had burning while urinating only one time and it was after I had masturbated in the shower (not sure if maybe soap or shampoo could have aggregated it) It had been 2-3 weeks since I had masturbated prior to that..
6. How reliable are these test results?
7. How sensitive and reliable are tests now days?
8. Can I trust these results?
9. Can I resume an intimate and sexual relationship safely with my wife again?
10.Please reference my swab question from above.
11.I have been diagnosed with Tinea Versicolor...Is this a sign of any infection?
12. Could I have gotten anything orally from fingering her and then touching my mouth?
13. Should I test for anything else or do I need any further testing?
I greatly value your knowledge and advice. I am ignorant to all of this. My wife has been my only sexual partner.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
What could it be? Almost certainly your mental state making you more aware of normal body sensations. In any case, no STD -- and that is all this forum deals with.
No more comments of any kind will be accepted on this thread.
No more comments of any kind will be accepted on this thread.
Hi Doctor
Just a couple more answers and a little more advice please. I am trying really hard to rely on and trust my test results, but the reason that I can't is because I still have this unexplained "weird" feeling of needing to urinate or discharge periodically. It is not intense by any means, but makes me feel like I need to "squeeze" or a trickle might come out. (never has though). It is hard to explain it sort of feels like when you press on your belly button (but not as tingly) I know this sounds bizarre to explain, but it is a concern of mine because it does not feel "normal". There is still no burning, itching, pussing etc. I wish I would either feel some "major" symptoms or nothing at all so I can put this to rest.
Any thoughts as to what this can be? Could it still be related to some type of STD? Please Doc any thoughts and advice would be extremely helpful.
Also why can I trust my 14 week HIV test when there are statements that say 3-6 months?
Thanks again so much and I look forward to hearing from you.
Just a couple more answers and a little more advice please. I am trying really hard to rely on and trust my test results, but the reason that I can't is because I still have this unexplained "weird" feeling of needing to urinate or discharge periodically. It is not intense by any means, but makes me feel like I need to "squeeze" or a trickle might come out. (never has though). It is hard to explain it sort of feels like when you press on your belly button (but not as tingly) I know this sounds bizarre to explain, but it is a concern of mine because it does not feel "normal". There is still no burning, itching, pussing etc. I wish I would either feel some "major" symptoms or nothing at all so I can put this to rest.
Any thoughts as to what this can be? Could it still be related to some type of STD? Please Doc any thoughts and advice would be extremely helpful.
Also why can I trust my 14 week HIV test when there are statements that say 3-6 months?
Thanks again so much and I look forward to hearing from you.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
1) If you don't have symptoms of urethrits (discharge of pus or mucus from the penis, primarily), you don't have NGU. Don't worry about it.
2) Yes.
3) You cannot possibly have an STD of the throat from the expousre you describe. There was no reason for testing. Disregard it.
There is never a problem in answering follow-up questions if they are legitimate new issues that were forgotten earlier, or were appropriately triggered by the initial respose, such as clarifying my advice if it seemed uncertain. What is not appropriate is to continue a series of anxiety-provoked questions that essentially ignore the main response. That reply was 100% clear that there was no measurable risk of STD from your exposure, and in any case that you can rely on the negative test results. You have nothing from that exposure that can harm you or could harm your wife or child.
You came here for reassurance and you have been givien it. Accept it at face value and stop trying to talk me (and yourself) into imagining a risk that did not exist. Time to move on.
Thanks for the thanks. But I won't have any further comments or advice for you.
2) Yes.
3) You cannot possibly have an STD of the throat from the expousre you describe. There was no reason for testing. Disregard it.
There is never a problem in answering follow-up questions if they are legitimate new issues that were forgotten earlier, or were appropriately triggered by the initial respose, such as clarifying my advice if it seemed uncertain. What is not appropriate is to continue a series of anxiety-provoked questions that essentially ignore the main response. That reply was 100% clear that there was no measurable risk of STD from your exposure, and in any case that you can rely on the negative test results. You have nothing from that exposure that can harm you or could harm your wife or child.
You came here for reassurance and you have been givien it. Accept it at face value and stop trying to talk me (and yourself) into imagining a risk that did not exist. Time to move on.
Thanks for the thanks. But I won't have any further comments or advice for you.
Thank-you so much Doctor. I truly appreciate your comments and feedback and take them very seriously. I totally agree with you about having lots of guilt and anxiety issues which are preventing me from accepting 100% my test results.
I guess another reason I am having this problem is because about 2-3 weeks after the encounter I had sensations of discharge in my urethra minus any actual fluid. I had the feeling like I had to "squeeze" slightly as if holding back urine. This lasted a good 4-6 weeks. It was not continuous, but felt it every now and then. I also felt as if I was urinating more frequently, but always a steady, full urine with no pain. So I just don't understand how everything can be negative...It just wasn't a normal type of feeling.
1. What about NGU? I don't think I was tested for that. Should that be a concern?
2. I know it is not HIV forum, but 14.5 weeks is conclusive right?
3. The swab on my throat...what was meant by the result was preliminary? It was 3 days after the swab was taken; Could the negative results of a throat swab change after a certain amount of time?
I want to apologize for this post in advance, but these were a couple more of my concerns. I know you do not always like to answer to re-posts. I have been seeing a counselor to help me out as well. Again, hearing thoughts from you as a Professional is an incredible help and resource for me to move on. As I stated before, I am completely ignorant to all of these issues and hearing reliable information from an educated person is a super stress reliever for me. You have eased a lot from your previous post. Thank-you so very much and God bless you and this forum.
I guess another reason I am having this problem is because about 2-3 weeks after the encounter I had sensations of discharge in my urethra minus any actual fluid. I had the feeling like I had to "squeeze" slightly as if holding back urine. This lasted a good 4-6 weeks. It was not continuous, but felt it every now and then. I also felt as if I was urinating more frequently, but always a steady, full urine with no pain. So I just don't understand how everything can be negative...It just wasn't a normal type of feeling.
1. What about NGU? I don't think I was tested for that. Should that be a concern?
2. I know it is not HIV forum, but 14.5 weeks is conclusive right?
3. The swab on my throat...what was meant by the result was preliminary? It was 3 days after the swab was taken; Could the negative results of a throat swab change after a certain amount of time?
I want to apologize for this post in advance, but these were a couple more of my concerns. I know you do not always like to answer to re-posts. I have been seeing a counselor to help me out as well. Again, hearing thoughts from you as a Professional is an incredible help and resource for me to move on. As I stated before, I am completely ignorant to all of these issues and hearing reliable information from an educated person is a super stress reliever for me. You have eased a lot from your previous post. Thank-you so very much and God bless you and this forum.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
I will try to help, but the answer to your fears will not come from further STD testing. You have been repeatedly and accurately told on the community forums that you were not at risk and your negative test results are reliable.
1) That's not a question, it is a cry for emotional aid. Your emotional state, probably related to guilt about your sexual infidelity, is the only health problem in evidence here. Your inability to integrate the objective facts into confidence, and to resolve your fears and your guilt, implies a need for professional mental health care. Discuss this with your primary care provider.
2-4) Not symptoms of STD. If your symptoms have not been professionally evaluated, discuss them with a health care provider. Don't assume that any genital symptom has to be an STD.
5-8) The test result prove no STD. The lab tests are completely reliable and you can trust the negative outcomes.
9) No distant online expert can guarantee someone isn't infected. But from all you say, I see no risk to resuming sex with your wife.
10) I don't know what this means.
11) Tinea versicolor is not sexually transmitted and does not suggest presence of an STD.
12) No, there is no STD risk by such exposure.
13) You do not need any further STD testing. You need only to dealt with the mental health issue that is on such obvious display. I suggest it out of compassion, not criticism.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
1) That's not a question, it is a cry for emotional aid. Your emotional state, probably related to guilt about your sexual infidelity, is the only health problem in evidence here. Your inability to integrate the objective facts into confidence, and to resolve your fears and your guilt, implies a need for professional mental health care. Discuss this with your primary care provider.
2-4) Not symptoms of STD. If your symptoms have not been professionally evaluated, discuss them with a health care provider. Don't assume that any genital symptom has to be an STD.
5-8) The test result prove no STD. The lab tests are completely reliable and you can trust the negative outcomes.
9) No distant online expert can guarantee someone isn't infected. But from all you say, I see no risk to resuming sex with your wife.
10) I don't know what this means.
11) Tinea versicolor is not sexually transmitted and does not suggest presence of an STD.
12) No, there is no STD risk by such exposure.
13) You do not need any further STD testing. You need only to dealt with the mental health issue that is on such obvious display. I suggest it out of compassion, not criticism.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
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