Strange Sexual Obsession

[gamer1]

When my wife and I are preparing for sex and are nude together in bed, she gets so upset when I spend, according to her, too much time looking over her body areas instead of completing our sex session.  She has often told me that I should have been a medical doctor except that she thinks no doctor takes that much time as I do in my examination.  After looking at every part of her and having intercourse I experience a great orgasm.
I have a strong libido and I spend a great deal of time on the internet web sites in the late evening hours looking at the nude bodies of young women.  Believe it or not I do not like to watch sexual acts like many men do but only want to view the nude body of the models.  With the HD photography techniques of many videos, it is rewarding to be able to see close up intimate body parts of the models.  It is easy for me to get sexually excited and a to masturbate but, I refrain from this.  Instead I leave my computer room and get in bed with my wife and ask her if we can have sex.  I am doing this with more frequency and my wife accuses me of watching porn on the internet and she gets mad ruining my sex session.
My obsession with wanting to look at a nude female body and look at all her body parts especially her most intimate areas closely is beginning to disturb me.  I wonder if this is normal or not. I think I am basket case and do need help. Maybe its time to visit a medical specialist. I am wondering if there are any other men who have such a wild obsession with the female body.  If I am not alone than maybe I would just continue what I’m doing.
Would appreciate any your comments.

[shairahmmad]

Greetings
my Friend is married and he is saying that when he get nude with his wife and start doing sex and when he start inter course he done only in 1minut or less  then minut even please tell us what is the soltion for that he can not sex in inter course for little longer

[StarPatience]

Please dont feel u are a basket case. I dont think there is anything wrong. I believe your wife has insecurities about her body that she doesnt feel comfortable when a man looks at her. My fiance always stares at me and at first when i was really insecure about myself Id hide or only wear a t shirt during intercourse. Now that i feel better about myself It feels good when he stares. Watching porn because u love to look at bodies is totally okay. My fiance watches too and theres nothing wrong with it. be being a female, i love watching it too. dont feel bad about yourself. especially because in the end all you want to do is please your wife. Its her with the issue

[rachel944]

i dont think its abnormal at all. my fiance often looks at my nude body. it makes me feel like he thinks im beautiful and appreciates my body. when he looks at me when im naked it stimulates our sexual activity. i think it brings us closer as a couple to be so open and comfortable with our nude bodies. i hope i helped you in any way.

[Janice M Epp, PhD]

Hello.

Your problem isn’t that you enjoy looking at women’s bodies, it’s that your wife is feeling either unappreciated or unattractive because she thinks you’re not turned on to her, but rather only to Internet imagery.

Let’s dispense with the word “normal,” shall we? There’s no such thing—there’s only what’s usual for you. If you’re turned on by women’s bodies, that’s a part of your erotic personality. Everyone is different, and there’s no one sexual operating system, so stop trying to fit into some fantasy of what’s “normal.”

I suggest you communicate to your wife how much you love her and that you think she’s beautiful. She needs to understand that your Internet activities are in no way a reflection of your feelings for her. In fact, it sound like they ENHANCE your sex life together rather than detract from it. It’s time to accept yourself as you are and open up the lines of communication with your wife. If you need help with this, find a therapist who is trained to help couples communicate about sexual issues. Best of luck to you. Dr. J