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1352808 tn?1277035849

sexual identity

I,m a girl of 17. Being as a tomboy since childhood. Started getting attracted to females since 13yr old. But the problem is i have fantasies being as a boy and penetrating. Never had any fantasies on lesibian sex!! I do accept i am a girl.But sometimes wish if i could turn myself to a boy.But i do not have that much stong feeling to be a boy...... I hate dressing as a female.i don,t like to dress up in clothes that shows my figure.I enjoy my body toughing it as if it is some-girls elses I CANT IDENTIFY MY SELF! PLEASE HELP!!
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523042 tn?1212181495
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi Pat.

I’m so glad you wrote to me because you’re obviously hurting and feeling isolated. Well there’s no need for that because there are lots of supportive groups out there which can provide you with information and support.

You may or may not be transgender. That's for you to decide after careful evaluation. It may just be that you're a very male-define woman who loves women--a "butch Lesbian."

We now know that our gender identity is essentially set at around age 2, right about the time we begin talking. Thus, most transgendered people have known their genders for quite a long time. And gender has nothing to do with sexuality, although many people erroneously link the two. Our gender identity isn’t dependent on the sex of our desired partner, but is rather our profound sense of who we are—either masculine or feminine.

I encourage you to learn more about gender issues, as well as those of sexual orientation. There are many helpful sites. The first one “FTM International,” has been very helpful to many.

http://www.ftmi.org/
http://www.ren.org/
http://www.lauras-playground.com/ftm_articles.htm
http://www.susans.org/Female_to_Male/

And here's one very helpful site regarding butch Lesbian identity:

http://lesbianlife.about.com/od/lesbiansex/g/StoneButch.htm

The most important thing is for you to reach out and connect with others so you can build friendships and relationships. Be proud of who you are, and don’t let anyone tell you you’re not OK! Best of luck to you. Dr. J
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Have you had sex yet? They say everybody is BI to some extent or another but.. Actually dreaming of penetration is actually less a being male fantasy and more of a power fantasy.

To be the receiver in the sexual act is to feel that you are giving up power or of yourself until you can get your mind around that you would have trouble adapting or feeling satisfied even if you had a pertner who let you use a strapon
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hi, am experencing some white discharge comeing out of me this is seen on my under wears but i haven't got any burning feelin,or any smell and hardly any itching..the itching is not bad,could any one please tell me what is going on.....i would like to now if i should u douche.........what should i do
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