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For quite some time now, when my wife and I have sex, I seem to be having issues when it comes time to reaching my orgasm, and ejaculating. Either it happens too soon, my penis becomes very numb, and I leave my wife unsatisfied. Or, I can't seem to "Get There", and I am left unsatisfied. Our sex life has decreased over the years, due to normal things. Children, scheduling conflicts, stress, etc. However, we have always had a normal, healthy, and ongoing appetite for sex. It's not a matter of not being attracted to one another, and we don't do any drugs, nor drink. So we are thinking it's more a medical then mental matter. We have been married for 8 years, and this has been going on for only the past 2 or 3 months. I'm worried, and so is she. She begins to cry, thinking it's her fault. So not only do I have me to worry about, but her as well. I'm always having to explain and comfort her so she realizes it's not her, it's me. Any suggestions?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
First, let me say that, according to the FDA, there are no herbal concoctions that have ever been proven to mitigate any sexual concerns.
It's unlikely that you have any physiological issues; most likely, this happened one time to you--as it will for most men in their lives--and then you became anxious and began to worry about it. If you're feeling anxious or conflicted, that can create a situation where you either can't relax enough to have an orgasm, or your anxiety triggers your body to react quickly, just to get it over with.
So here's what may help you: first, stop worrying about "satisfying" your wife. That's not your responsibility. Sex is not a "job," it's pleasure. As soon as you begin to think of it as anything but pleasure, you interfere with your ability to enjoy it. So stop worrying. Tell your wife that' you're very turned on to her and find her extremely attractive and that you've just become very anxious over the past few months and now want to change the pattern. In other words, assure her that it's nothing she's doing or not doing. Then tell her you'd like to refocus on the sheer pleasure of touching and being touched without any goal in mind. I guarantee you she will be thrilled. Most women really enjoy lots of touching during sex. Instead of focusing on some goal, like orgasm, just enjoy being together and relax. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
First, let me say that, according to the FDA, there are no herbal concoctions that have ever been proven to mitigate any sexual concerns.
It's unlikely that you have any physiological issues; most likely, this happened one time to you--as it will for most men in their lives--and then you became anxious and began to worry about it. If you're feeling anxious or conflicted, that can create a situation where you either can't relax enough to have an orgasm, or your anxiety triggers your body to react quickly, just to get it over with.
So here's what may help you: first, stop worrying about "satisfying" your wife. That's not your responsibility. Sex is not a "job," it's pleasure. As soon as you begin to think of it as anything but pleasure, you interfere with your ability to enjoy it. So stop worrying. Tell your wife that' you're very turned on to her and find her extremely attractive and that you've just become very anxious over the past few months and now want to change the pattern. In other words, assure her that it's nothing she's doing or not doing. Then tell her you'd like to refocus on the sheer pleasure of touching and being touched without any goal in mind. I guarantee you she will be thrilled. Most women really enjoy lots of touching during sex. Instead of focusing on some goal, like orgasm, just enjoy being together and relax. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
Oh and I forgot to say not to forget your Omega-3 fatty acids as they improve nerve regeneration. This helps for orgasms.
You might want to take some herbal remedies that can help you recover your orgasms and ejaculation. You say your ejaculation happens to soon? Why not do some Kegel exercising? It helps to control ejaculating and make your pelvic region much stronger as I heard.
The past couple of months I have taken some herbal remedies to recover some dysfunctions I had and that included premature ejaculation and orgasms. I took some pretty healthy herbs like Ginko Biloba, Maca, Ashwagandha, Ginseng, Bilberry, Saw Palmetto, Horny Goat Weed and I drunk up over 20 different vegetables in one cup. I took all those herbs on different days and I waited after a month or so and I noticed changes in most of my dysfunctions. You should try eating your greens as well and that includes garlic. Garlic should boost your sex drive. I still recommend looking up the herbs I told you about and maybe they can give you benefit as they had given me benefit. Also, some common foods like Ginger is good for premature ejaculation. For orgasms, try reading about Maca, Siberian Ginseng, Yohimbe and Horny Goat Weed.
Herbs and greens helped me a lot with a similar problem to what you had. I think the key answer is the certain foods you should take to heal what is down there. I also recommend exercising so you can boost blood in that region as well and nerve stimulation.
The past couple of months I have taken some herbal remedies to recover some dysfunctions I had and that included premature ejaculation and orgasms. I took some pretty healthy herbs like Ginko Biloba, Maca, Ashwagandha, Ginseng, Bilberry, Saw Palmetto, Horny Goat Weed and I drunk up over 20 different vegetables in one cup. I took all those herbs on different days and I waited after a month or so and I noticed changes in most of my dysfunctions. You should try eating your greens as well and that includes garlic. Garlic should boost your sex drive. I still recommend looking up the herbs I told you about and maybe they can give you benefit as they had given me benefit. Also, some common foods like Ginger is good for premature ejaculation. For orgasms, try reading about Maca, Siberian Ginseng, Yohimbe and Horny Goat Weed.
Herbs and greens helped me a lot with a similar problem to what you had. I think the key answer is the certain foods you should take to heal what is down there. I also recommend exercising so you can boost blood in that region as well and nerve stimulation.
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