Hello.
I'm sorry you're unhappy; however, I can't tell you whether what you experienced over 20 years ago was appropriate because I'm not a urologist.
Regarding a psychological issue: this issue is quite complex, and in order to give you further information, I'd need further data. You say you have struggled with intimacy and closeness. We are quite complex beings, and there are probably many reasons for your struggles. If you'd like to send me some more details about this issue, I'd be happy to respond. Dr. J
I would have thought it a psychological issue. Considering you couldn't answer my question or seek out the right answer, maybe I can get my 12 dollars back.
Abyssmal service, when you pay for something I think you can expect better
Hello.
This is a question for a urologist. Please ask your question in the Urology Expert Forum at:
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Urology/show/113
The timeliness of responses from doctors here is a joke, what a dissapointed.
Well i am a grown man and I don't think they really enter into it at this point
It takes great courage to talk about this. I think you should talk to a licensed therapist ( LCSW, MSW, PhD) about your current issues and eventually he/she (which ever person you're most comfortable talking with) will discuss your struggles until you are able to tell your parents.
I think the legal terms for your situation would be the lack of "informed consent" and "sexual misconduct". http://health-care.lawyers.com/Tell-Me-About-It-Informed-Consent.html
The most important thing is to see a counselor first. Some counselors have worked long enough to help you seek the legal means to resolve your case. Remember that going to your therapist is a safe place to talk, even though it it may be scary to talk about. Every counselor adheres to patient confidentiality until you and your counselor feel you are ready to discuss this issue with your parents and eventually through legal means.