Hi doctor J,
My issue I believe started when I was in puberty. I started masturbating in an unconventional way. I would place my hand over my cloths and rub my hand against my penis that way, or sometimes I would lay face down and rub against my mattress while i was fully clothed. I did this in case someone knocked on the door, i would already be dressed and they wouldn't suspect anything.
Today I am 29 and have not been with many women, most of my sexual experience has been through masturbation.
The problem I have now is when I have regular intercourse with a women I cannot feel that much sensation when I am in the vagina. I feel the initial pleasant sensation of warmth and then after goes away I feel next to nothing and can go for like an hour before ejaculation.
I believe that since I spend most of my time masturbating and not having real sex I have become conditioned to respond only in that way.
a second thing I have noticed is that I can be feeling really turned on, but then when I take my cloths off and I don't feel very aroused at all. I feel less comfortable naked, even when i am just by myself. And i have trouble getting an erection if i try to masturbate in the shower with lubricant to make it seem more like the real thing, even if I am thinking of the same thing that i was when masturbating in my cloths.
Also i used pornography a lot when masturbating and am used to viewing the girl that way, I am not used to regular real girls who aren't as sexy or viewing them from my point of view and not a third person perspective.
I do not have a girlfriend to have sex with.
My question is, does my self analysis make sense? and since I don't have a girlfriend right now, can I start to condition myself to like regular intercourse so I am ready to enjoy sex for the next time I get lucky?
Thank You!