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control of lust
HI there
I can't control my lust properly.Im 22 years old right now and I can't help but watch porn and go to brothels once in a while.I try my best to stop but it usually does'nt last long
I can't control my lust properly.Im 22 years old right now and I can't help but watch porn and go to brothels once in a while.I try my best to stop but it usually does'nt last long
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello Russel.
It sounds to me as though you think there's something bad or wrong with sexual desire and/or looking at erotica, etc. With a few very rare exceptions, almost everyone has sexual desires; it's part of being human. Perhaps you've been frightened by some old myths that there's such a thing as thinking about sex too much? There's lots of misinformation about sexuality out there, and many people are vulnerable to these negative messages, thinking there's a "right" way to feel and a "wrong" way to feel. The truth is that we all have differing levels of sexual desire. Some of us think about sex and desire it once a day, some once a month, some many times a day, some never, and so on.
It's also possible that you're lonely. You don't mention being social or sexual with others, except for going to brothels. Sometimes, being shy and/or sexually inexperienced can contribute to feelings of isolation, low self-esteem, etc. You might want to examine why you're isolating yourself. I bet if you join some group activities where you can socialize and get comfortable with others, you'll find yourself gaining confidence. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
It sounds to me as though you think there's something bad or wrong with sexual desire and/or looking at erotica, etc. With a few very rare exceptions, almost everyone has sexual desires; it's part of being human. Perhaps you've been frightened by some old myths that there's such a thing as thinking about sex too much? There's lots of misinformation about sexuality out there, and many people are vulnerable to these negative messages, thinking there's a "right" way to feel and a "wrong" way to feel. The truth is that we all have differing levels of sexual desire. Some of us think about sex and desire it once a day, some once a month, some many times a day, some never, and so on.
It's also possible that you're lonely. You don't mention being social or sexual with others, except for going to brothels. Sometimes, being shy and/or sexually inexperienced can contribute to feelings of isolation, low self-esteem, etc. You might want to examine why you're isolating yourself. I bet if you join some group activities where you can socialize and get comfortable with others, you'll find yourself gaining confidence. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
that sounds like a really good idea, thanx
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi again.
University can be a lonely place. Think about what interests you and what you like to do, and then join some co-ed groups (art, music, sports, etc.). You'll meet lots of women with whom you'll have something in common. It's time to let out that attractive, intelligent man! One tip: be INTERESTED in what women have to say and enjoy your conversations with them. Women love a man who enjoys their company--not just for sex, but for the interesting people that they are. Dr. J
University can be a lonely place. Think about what interests you and what you like to do, and then join some co-ed groups (art, music, sports, etc.). You'll meet lots of women with whom you'll have something in common. It's time to let out that attractive, intelligent man! One tip: be INTERESTED in what women have to say and enjoy your conversations with them. Women love a man who enjoys their company--not just for sex, but for the interesting people that they are. Dr. J
thank you for ur reply.i think ur right bout the brothel thing.ive never had a girlfreind before and i don't have as many freinds around in uni compared to high school
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