Dad's just had a massive stroke

[washy21]

Hi

I'm terribly upset. My dad has just had a stroke. He's 72 and is currently in hospital virtually asleep full time. We know that it is caused by a blood clot stemming from Atrial Fibrillation and it has affected his left side (No vision, left arm and leg)

The doctor has painted a very bleak picture which was very devastating and right now at this moment it just seems that there is no hope.

Can anyone re-assure me that if he survives there is some hope for quality of life. It's all a bit much at the moment and the future is too much to contemplate.

Thanks

[forsakenVA]

My father had a massive stroke on 3/28.  The doctor said that he would never walk or talk again, although from reading your posts I now understand that this may not be true.  I have a mother and 2 sisters that have banded together to keep me away from him - and may have succeeded - last time I visited with Dad, they verbally attacked me and threatened to call security if I did not leave (yes, all in front of my father who can understand and communicate by squeezing your hand). I chose to say goodbye to my father and let him know that I may not be able to see him again - my mother yelled at me that I could not tell him anything - I told her that he was right there and that he already heard everything - she told me to leave again - I told her he was squeezing my hand so she then yelled at him to let go, to let me go.  I just looked at her in amazement that anyone could be so cruel.  I have since learned that his blood pressure was up for a few days (and other family members were being told it was because of me but seriously, mom did all the yelling and threatening in front of him).  I would like to see Dad but don't want to risk being with him if one of the others come in and start their abuse and upset him - don't know if it would upset him if I never see him again, or if he yearns to see me.  Mom has always guilted me into visiting so as to not hurt Dad's feelings (I did not want to see her & put up with her abuse), but now that he cannot speak she has put down the iron fist and won't let me near him without threatening security.  This is absurd and sickening and I am still trying to recover from the shock of her behavior, let alone Dad's stroke.  What does Dad want?

[MsMeme1981]

Hi, I know its been years since all this happen, but I am currently going through the same thing. My mom went for back surgery on 1/12/15 and on 1/13/15 she wasn't responding so they say she had, had a major stroke. Long story short after several weeks of sleeping and no responding they gave up on her, 2 days later she open her eyes and the after she started making more improvements. So now that she's home she was progressing more but now it like she having several kind of attacks back to back. What I really want to know is how did everything turn out for you. Please give any information you can good or bad. Thanks

[gop20015]

as a daddy's girl,watching him for 20 days on videos your aunty sent shows how much you are?700 miles is nothing nowadays with transport?

[CeridwenFenella]

Mum had stroke at 80 and is in nursing home.she has a peg feed and doesn't speak, but smiles at us in the right places when we talk to her. It has been three months now. Her left side is affected. We talk to her and read to her and she listens to music and he a TV in her room. We do a bit of physio with her too, as don't think anyone else is doing this. Is there anything else we can do? We brought a window bird feeder for her which she likes...

[michniak]

Steve15117, every situation is different with these strokes.  My Mom did not do well with hers... she had a massive brainstem stroke 4 weeks ago and has since passed.

Is your Dad aware of his surroundings when he opens his eyes?  What are the doctors saying in terms of his consciousness?

[Steve15117]

My father has had a stroke 5 days on the left side doctors have said 70% of the left side is damaged he cannot speak he opens his eyes and moves his left and right arm has anyone been told this if so what was the outcome
Thanks