A clarification of "cows"

[AndiJ78]

Just to allay the fears of those skinny witches on here, the term "old cow" came from a lovely 19-year-old (she claimed, likely younger) member many moons ago who dubbed some of us old cows for having the audacity to advise her maybe she should wait a while before TTC. Seems around that time we were having an influx of members coming on in horrible financial positions and fledgling relationships wanting to conceive. So for our efforts in advising that they wait until they were more stable, ie had a job, insurance, a committed relationship, sobriety, etc we were dubbed Old Cows.

At the time, I was 26 or 27, not old by anyone's standards and I was markedly thinner :-) Not that I think I am necessarily a heifer now, but you know what I mean.

So there it is. That does not mean you have to believe the same. It is just the story of the cows title.

[mslkpage]

Calos Pride and then islandprincess. She's the one who thought my name was milkspage. She didn't like me much.

[tiredbuthappy]

Annie- for me, it depends on which forum. Honestly, on the pregnancy 18-35 forum, i avoid most posts where I know I'll get attacked for being honest. it's always posts like "can i give my 8 month old cow's milk?" This is a relatively recent example. Many people were telling the poster that "mommy knows best for her baby." Well, mommy doesn't know physiology. I got attacked for stating the AAP's recommendation of formula/breast milk until 12 months. It's things like that that get to me.

On the maternal and child forum, there are more people who are knowledgable about some things so my response doesn't stick out like a sore thumb, waiting to get bitten off.

[AnnieBrooke]

About sugarcoating -- I think there are definitely posters who come on and just want someone to say, "Yes, honey!  You are right and everyone else is wrong!"  It's always tough to try to figure out what to say when a person is doing something really boneheaded, or deluding themselves.  It's often such posters who are the most defensive, angry and sorry for themselves if they get comments contrary to what they want to hear.  So what do you do, write "Awww, hon, I know how you feel, you're probably right," or give some kind of more factual advice?  

[AndiJ78]

Also, the PG 35+ is not as likely to be inundated with with teenyboppers trying to have a baby with Joe Blow Unemployed either.

MC has been the dumping ground for many years, so a Google search will often lead them there and there they plant their seeds.

I am the one least likely to sugarcoat something, but hopefully many will agree that they can see my compassion for those who really touch me. I spend more time communicating via email or PM than on the forums. I can only take so many ridiculous attacks or defensive responses to poor parenting before I need to back off.

[TrudieC]

Swampy!  That is hilarious!  A little kinky, but still quite funny!

[adgal]

No offense taken tired.  I do think over on Pregnancy 35+ we tend to be a little more "sugary".  Not sure why that is except that so many of us have struggled so much getting or staying pregnant that staying positive is all we can do once we are. Due to the age factor, we have an awful lot of miscarriages, so  it can almost be like a "hand holding" forum more then anything, although I think most try to give good advice, at least to the best of their knowledge.  

The posts I find the most frustrating are definately the "am I pregnant" and as Annie said, the "can I get pregnant with my tubes tied".   However I suppose there are those that really don't know.....how they don't know I am not sure, and I often wonder how many are real vs. trolls.  I will still never understand what trolls get out of fake posts.