Feel gross

[amandalindenburger]

Ok so im 35wks+5 dYs and i have gained 60lbs my fiance isnt attracted to heavy girls and for the past 3 weeks hasnt touched me in any sexual way and when i try to touch him he turns away. I already feel very gross and unatractive so with him being like this it makes it even worse. What can i do?

[always_smile]

just try to be open with him and tell him how your feeling and ask how he is feeling. Sometimes just opening up to each other is all that's needed for you two to understand each other over this. I havent gained much I started at 130 and now 149lbs. I'm   35 weeks pregnant but my husband doesn't find me attractive and has told me numerous times my belly turns him off and it's hard  to have sex with me. Hes not attracted to bigger woment and has told me if i wasnt pregnant he would leave me if i was this fat with no baby.It makes me not want to step on the scale or gain anymore weight.I just finally sat down with him the other day with no distractions and cried and let out how his comments makes me feel and listened to how he is feeling over this pregnancy. I haven't had any more comments over the subject and he has been more sensitive.

[VERITO21]

Hiii!!
Well, I was 130 pounds before my pregnancy, now I am 164 pounds, I have gain 30 pounds, but same thing for my husband he doesn't like big women, but what has helped us a lot, is that I have been really open with him, letting him know that for me is also hard to see myself in the mirror now that I am super fat, but he also tries to tell me, that right after delivery we are going to work together to be again skinny.

We don't have that much intimacy now that I am 35 weeks pregnant because it is hard to find the right position because my belly is huge! but we try to say nice words to each other, and we go out.  Don't feel bad, be thankful you can enjoy having a baby.
And you need to talk to him, he need to tell you what he feels, and if he says he says that you are not attractive to him, understand him, and work hard after the delivery.

Best Wishes,

Irma Alejo

[amandalindenburger]

I hope so, im nervouse to talk to him. I dont want him to jst tell me what he thinks i want to hear.Its really hard thinking that my fiance doesnt want to be with me intimatly.

[Castillo025]

Try talking to him and let him know your concerns. I hope he understands where your coming from and that everything gets better for you.