hubby's actions!!..

[anabelcrts]

Well I wanna share this here cuz I dnt have someone to telp and I know this forum is jst for us girls :-D.. this is about my hubby we bin together for the past 8 yrs. I was 15 yrs old and he was 18 when we started living together.  We had pur 1st bby when I was 17. It was his great idea for us to be together.  I said yes to him cuz my mom wouldn't let me go out so I thought it would be different by being with him. Which we only were boyboyfriend and ggirlfriend for 8 months.  But in those 8 months I never knew or found out anything about him till now ok 8 yrs later now with 4 kids. I get to know that he was doing drugs and drinking acting a fool. And it's sad because he wouldn't and still wont let me go hang out with my friends.  Is like I tell him. U had fun u did what u did and wouldn't let me do **** and still won't let me have fun. And I dnt mean fun being with guys or do stupid shiit. I know how to give him his place like my husband that he is and he knows how much I love him. But I tell him that hes an insecure person and that's not good because he shows me he dnt trust me so why being together!. When we only had 2 babys he cheated on me whith this ***** we didn't even know who fhe fk she was.(but im glad I whoped her *** lol). And then when he was doing drugs he used to hang around with my brother that he chose for my daughter to be her god parents. And now I understand why he did that. Lil by lil everything is poping out right now. Now im 24 yrs old he's 28. And every time my brother calls he asks for him he won't wanna talk at all. He says dnt tell him im here... And if I had lost trust on him for cheating and hardly started we'll he just lost it again and I dnt know what to do. Sometimes I just wanna be by myself with my kids and get away from him cuz hes full of shiit but my kids dnt have nothing to do with our personal issues and they love him bery much but if there's no trust between us why being together!!. He suare to god he wasn't gonna cheat on me again and about the drugs and drinking he doesn't do it at all because I have a bad temper and he stoped when we had our 1st bby but when he left me cuz he left with that ***** he cheated on me he started doingthem and I told him to chose his **** or us his family. And he chosed us. But now im putting the pieces of the puzzle all together and is so sad that he lied to me when I used to tell him every little thing that happened or did................... what u ladies think!??.... thanks for taking ur time to read all this lol..

[tomorrow264]

I hope he can keep it up :)

[anabelcrts]

Yea I already spoke with him and he said he's already grown up now he wants to dedicate his time with us and he shows me more interest on our kids and helps me way more. Hopefully we stay cool from now on. Or else I will move on with my kids..

[tomorrow264]

Its a really sh*tty situation to be in. Maybe lay it all out for him like get your sh*t together and stop acting like this or we're done.

[anabelcrts]

Yes that's what he's showing me. Even thoe he's never put a hand on me he is acting selfish... and im not gonna lie to u I bin asking myself alot of things and it is really thought as of right now. But I also noticed that he acts like if he's afraid of loosing our relationship....

[tomorrow264]

That's a tough one. Even if you two don't get into it when the kids are they can still pick up on the tension between you guys. It sounds like he's controlling, insecure and untrustworthy. I personally couldn't be with someone like that. You just really need to step back and ask yourself is this a healthy relationship for me and my children? Are our problems something that we can work on and fix? Is he willing to put the effort in to fixing those problems? If you are thinking you want to leave but are worried about the kids he can still have a good strong relationship with them even if the two of you aren't together.