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i get screamed at constantly it scares me and my little dog i had trouble picking which kind of abuse i am getting as i fit into all of the catagories. He used to be more in the sexual category then it became more emotional then financial until now my turkey got thrown out the door. He always ruins special events every one I am sick with lupus and hep and constant migraine chronic pain i am starting to believe that abuse of any kind will make you sick i do stick up for myself lately then he records me on his phone he has denied me medical attention and now is so mean i just dont think i can stay i need to find a way out of here how do we get into these kinds of traps and why is it so hard for women to get support to get away from these guys.If I was still able to work at my siding installer job i could easily walk away and find a new home for me and my dog he is like my child as i could not have any i pray every night either for him to change or for me to find a way out i cant stop crying i have been so sick and in hospital just other day and still the yelling keeps going i am open to sugguestions where does a very sick person go ?welfare gives us 749 mnth who can live on that i am hanging on by a thread please any advice
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Awww well come onto Med Help there will be folks around , it is hard sometimes to enjoy when we have troubles, you are allowed to feel sorry for yourself.May I venture to say that it wont always be like this you will formulate a plan and get on with your own life .You have your dog to share Christmas with you, animals can sometimes be as good if not better companions in some cases.,have you joined any groups and help on any forums ..I wish you well ..
Thank you for your thoughts. I am Canadian so things work a little different here but we still have a few resources.I know without help from family it is impossible I have tried.I know he does not love me it is just that the house is in my name and he is currently in bankruptcy.It is a long story but my only option is to leave and also loose any time money etc that I have put into the home which is in my name.You would think that would put me in a position to do something but there is nothing to do but leave.he does not love me anyway.I know I probably will never be able to do my trade again but maybe God has a better plan for me and my little dog.It sure cant be here being abused everyday. I am unlovable so it seems as he wont even give me a hug or anything. This is three years now.I feel like he may be right. I must be pretty bad if after all this time? No one else like past relationships ever acted that way. But now I have lupus and I get a bad rash on my face etc and being sick cant be very attractive.Still it is pretty mean. The crazy part is that he keeps telling me he loves me.I say act like it. Now I am at the point where I just wish I was someone else. If I cant get something to look up? My whole family was to come for Xmas but my mom has a stomach virus so no one will be here and that was my thread to hold on to. My parents cant help me or don't want to don't know which.I don't understand as I have done everything i can for them. I sided their house for nothing during high season too i have given them furniture painted many times inside, taken time to help mom after her feet were operated on you name it.I feel like an old shoe with no mate.Ahh forget it I am just feeling sorry for myself I am sure their are people with it much worse than me.Things just have to get better. If I felt better I would be baking cookies for my mom and dad. I really am not in the mood for xmas and feel like a nervous wreck as soon as he walks in the room.So when he comes home I have to pull myself together no matter how I feel and just sit in the coffee shop. It is best that way.I am so sorry to go on like this.Thanks for letting me vent I hope you all have a good holiday season
u r right i live in a very small community no shelters here but i will find the strength and place with Gods help thank you for your kind words
I am sorry you are having this hard time however it is within you to change this for yourself and your little dog, have you any relatives would put you up whilst you sorted out how to move forward, as I feel you should leave as soon as you can.This is not the way to live, and it wont get better unless he is willing to change drastically.Every town /city has a battered woman's place to go but am not certain if they would take your dog, so a friend or family would be best. Its hard to do but sorry you have to walk away or put up with this treatment.No one can do it for you, be strong and do it ...good luck
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It is horrible to feel "stuck", "trapped" and hopeless. I don't want you to feel that way and empower you to get out of there. You should research options to you. There are things like section 8 housing which is subsidized by the government, food stamps, health care, and financial benefits for our country's disabled. If your medical conditions (and I imagine emotional state at this point) prevent you from working----------- getting out of the current situation, seeking medical treatment, and getting back on your feet may allow you to get strong enough to go back to your siding job.
So, hang in there. Let us know what happens.