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Happily married mother of 2 recently drugged and raped

So...I was recently working out of town and had a dinner out with some clients.  At some point during the evening I was drugged and later the next day realized I had been raped.  I showed up at the ER on Friday afternoon and asked if there was a test they could do to tell me if I had sexual intercourse in the last 24 hours (I had been out of town for several days so any sex would be a surprise to me.)  I was devastated to hear that they found semen in my vagina and have launched a full investigation.  The detectives have pulled all the serveillence footage from the hotel, interviewed witnesses, etc.  But, because I was drugged I have absolutely NO memory of the event.  It is not looking good for making a conviction and things are so hard here at home.  My husband has been amazingly supportive and we have family taking care of our 2 children right now while we sort things out.  Since I was out of town at the time my rape advocate had very little info about local rape support groups, etc.  Anyone who can give me info or advice or support is greatly appreciated.   I am hearing from every doctor that I talk to that this happens so often and no one ever speaks of it.  I am ready to SPEAK!!!
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13167 tn?1327194124
I'm sorry this happened to you.  It sounds awful.

I really don't know what to say that would be helpful except it seems like your clients would know what happened to you - were any of them women?  What do they say when asked about what happened to you that night?  

Best wishes.
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535822 tn?1443976780
That is my thought aswell what have the clients got to say about what happened ,what were your last memories of the evening ,it must have been a very nasty shock realising something happened .
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The police are questioning them to see if anyone can identify the man that did this.  I just received a call from the detective that said he is getting his search warrant signed in an hour and then he will have all the surveillance footage from the hotel.  I will be traveling back to GA later today for further questioning.  I was SO sedated on Friday that I could barely even make sense of the situation.  Keep us in your thoughts and prayer please!
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13167 tn?1327194124
I'm glad the police are taking this so seriously.  It sounds very positive that it will be solved.  

I don't know why creeps like that think they can get away with it.  
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Just an update...not such a good meeting with the detective.  He had all the video surveillance from the hotel that simply shows me walking in the hotel lobby to the elevator with the man we think raped me.  He says there is not enough evidence to convict, not enough video to identify the man, and since I had been drugged and not "forceably assaulted" there was nothing else they could do.  He says there is simply no case and actually questioned me as to whether I had been honest with him about the details of the evening??!!  It was truly heartbreaking.  I felt like I was on trial, again the victim.  I will rise above this and be stronger in the end!  Thanks for all the support.
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