his guilt, my abuse

[kelsbby19]

Hello everyone.. im just going to stsrt off with ive been in a relationship for three years with the father of my daughter.  I have another baby on the way as well to him. Hes a great guy! Dont get me wrong. But when it comes to our relationship I question him. Hes cheated on me soo many times.  Weve honestly even been on the steve wilkos show (he called) I did leave him for about six months to give him his space and mayne calm down. But I took him back after six months. And ges was good. .. for the first three months. Then he cheated again. I told him I have no reason to stay with him. At this point I dont. He knew it was his last chance. Hes also been physically abusive in the past. Not since ive taken him back tho.. now its all emotional and verbal abuse. Like before I took him back I foumd another guy. And my baby dad fought for me back... so now that he cheated on me he sits there amd brings up the pther guy all the time. But we werent dating when that happened.... this is because of his guilt right? Cause he never brought it up before he cheated.... now its an everyday thing amd I hate it. It drives me nuts! If I wanted that guy I would be with him... what can I do to get him to stop??? Ive already tried talking about it. Je just explodes because "I had sex with him" but like I said I wasnt with my baby dad at that time!

[specialmom]

You've given him enough chances.  The relationship sounds very toxic.  I would not stay.  It's not healthy for anyone.  Trust me, you say your daughter isn't around.  As she gets older, she'll see.  And THAT would be her example of a man.  A bad example.  Sadly,, I think you need to document things though and fight for full custody because I wouldn't want a disrespectful to women, abusive man around my kids . ..   even if he did father them.  

It's a sad situation but all you can do now is try to make your life better.  And he's not willing to change (you've tried to get him to all these years and he hasn't).  You're better off on your own than living with someone that treats you that way.  good luck

[kelsbby19]

He does not do it around her its usually when shes sleeping. And im a spiritually strong woman I believe that you fix something when its broken. What society believes in today I dont agree with. And we've both had other people Before each other.

[AnnieBrooke]

He's just feeling territorial, some people want to be their other's only one, even if they themselves are catting around.

I don't understand why you would stay with a guy who is verbally and emotionally abusive.  What are you showing your daughter about what she should put up with in a man?