My wife abuses me

[jetx]

I have been abused by my wife since I got married. I have to admit that I have made a couple of decisions in my life that my wife wasn't happy about it that has made our lifes from an economic point of view more difficult. As a result of those decisions I get abused on a daily basis. I don't know what to do anymore. I have been feeling guilty and put up with it for the longest time. We have three children and if it wasn't for them I could take some action but I don't want to risk my children. I know that if we got a divorce she would make sure my life is as misarable as it can be. We met in the USA and when I finished my degree I wanted to go back to my country but she didn't want to come. I was madly in love and I decided to stay. We got married and that's when the abuse started. I had kept a few things to myself about my past relationship's. She started a brutal interrogation that lasted for six months. Every detail, every action, everything she demanded to know and didn't stop till she got all the information through mental torture. What I mean about mental torture is that she would ask me the same questions for hours, days, weeks, months, non stop. She would argue with me till early morning hours  non stop. And the next day and the next. Finally we got through that stage and life went back to "normal". This abuse has continued for different reasons. There is always seems to be a reson for her to abuse me. She is not happy with her life and I get the blame. That's OK. But is that a normal person's behaviour? Today again from the minute i wake up she has been shouting at me. 9 hours in a row non stop. Always the same things over and over. If you had bought a house when I told you!!!!! etc... etc...

[jetx]

Thanks for your concern. Sometimes I walk out when she yells endlessly but sometimes if I try to walk out she will threaten to destroy everything in the house. And yelling in front of the kids has never stopped her. I can not reason with her.

[faithfulchild]

I am really sorry about what you are going through butThis is not normal you guys need to see a counselor immediately!

[Barbarella]

Are you in any kind of therapy?  Staying in the marriage for the kids sake is not always the best.  Don't you think your kids overheard by now your wife yelling at you for hours?  Do you think its good for the kids to witness and hear that on a daily basis?

See if counseling can help you.  If not, and you do not want a divorce because of the kids I guess you are stuck.  Next time she yells endlessly can't you just walk out?  In the yard, go for a walk, a drive, take the kids with you if that makes you feel better.

Remember you only allow a person to do abusive things to you if you do not do anything about it.