I dont know if its abuse

[Marie2134]

well me and my husband have been married for eight months now but we only new eachother a month before we got married but that was because he is in the military and in order to live together we have to be married but weve gotten use to it now. i would say a few months after being married he started pushing me and he would push my head against the wall and ask if me if i would stop and then one time we were kinda fighting and yelling at eachother and i had his hands pinned to his sides and then he he slammed his head into my head and i got a big bump. He would tell me that he would do this to me because of his experiences in the military and i believed him so ive never blamed it on him but i still felt like i didnt deserve it. After he did that he realized that that was going way to far and he stopped doing all of that. but ive always heard that if he hits u once hes going to do it again so i wanted to plan to leave him but then i found out that i was pregnant and i felt stuck. but then it was still ok because he still hadnt done anything. recently though he has been slapping me trying to be funny but with a mans hand it does hurt. and the other night we were kind of hitting eachother playfully though and i thought it was ok, until i backed handed him, not even hard, but he took it way worse and he started to punch my leg really hard and i started crying. but i dont want to leave him. i love him too much. wat should i do

[nuredshuz]

good post!

[margypops]

Rough housing and "Playful Hitting" (your words) is not a good idea you are sending mixed messages so that should stop, reading your post it sounds as if you have been a part of the behavior, so sit down with him tell him your concerns and adjust your own behavior, you could also ,both of you ,get some counseling before the Baby is born it is not a good enviroment for a child,it sounds as if with some work on both sides that is may be fixable ,tell him this kind of behavior is not permittable ,but also take responsibility for your part Good Luck

[jo929]

Noone is worh putting up with abuse, if you do not get out now soon you may not be able to, you know they do kill get out while you can there are places out there pick up the phone and ask for the hot line  luck  jo

[THEANONYMOUSONE]

Whats more important the love that you have this abusive husband you have or the sake of your unborn child.Please do your unborn child and yourself a favor and leave.Its not worth it,They may say that will stop but what happens from a month or longer from now he starts up with the abuse all over again?Stay there and take it and let him do it again to you and hurt your unborn child.GOD I HOPE NOT.There are plenty of shelters out there for woman in your kind of predicament and your local police will help you.GOOD LUCK!.