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If a girl starts hitting her boyfriend for some reason n he pushes her hard n she gets hurt n she just walks away n he apologized but she said she don't wanna talk n he says something when he walks away n then texts her saying no girls gonna put there hands on him without him reacting/I guess defending himself . What should she do ? )""":
This is the Abuse Forum, not the Pregnancy Forum. And by abuse, I mean physical mental and verbal. Not drugs and alcohol, as there are separate forums for that.
I could never hit someone that I loved. End of story. If i did lose it like that, I would assume that I was not mature enough to be in a relationship.
If any one hit me, I would assume that they didn't love me, or not at a time in their life when they could express mature love.
I could never hit someone that I loved. End of story. If i did lose it like that, I would assume that I was not mature enough to be in a relationship.
If any one hit me, I would assume that they didn't love me, or not at a time in their life when they could express mature love.
So, I do actually agree that your boyfriend was defending himself from your punches and this situation was something you created. Sorry, but that is how I honestly feel and I hope you can figure out how to do things differently next time. good luck
Getting physical is never the answer. Even to something like someone cheating on you. It solves nothing. It's a base level reaction that we are supposed to be taught from a young age how to manage in appropriate ways. We teach our kids not to hit, right? When they are mad and lash out with their fists, they get a time out.
Sometimes it is hard to control ourselves. But we have to do it. It is never okay for a woman to hit a man just because she is a woman and mad. And it is not okay for a man to hurt a woman. It's wrong for both.
I personally would describe a relationship that ends up in hitting/shoving matches during arguments as volatile and even toxic. Both adults have to get a handle on that and it is really important as you are about to be parents. You don't want a home where this goes on, I'm sure.
So, I don't think it was right for your boyfriend to shove you. Not at all. But I think it was equally wrong for you to hit him. Both need self control and more advanced skills in handling anger. This is something that perhaps a therapist that specializes in anger management can help you with. No one should 'go there'.
This is different than defending yourself. That can be warranted. But from what was described here, the one defending himself would be her boyfriend. If someone was punching my arm, I'd probably push them away to make them stop.
good luck
Sometimes it is hard to control ourselves. But we have to do it. It is never okay for a woman to hit a man just because she is a woman and mad. And it is not okay for a man to hurt a woman. It's wrong for both.
I personally would describe a relationship that ends up in hitting/shoving matches during arguments as volatile and even toxic. Both adults have to get a handle on that and it is really important as you are about to be parents. You don't want a home where this goes on, I'm sure.
So, I don't think it was right for your boyfriend to shove you. Not at all. But I think it was equally wrong for you to hit him. Both need self control and more advanced skills in handling anger. This is something that perhaps a therapist that specializes in anger management can help you with. No one should 'go there'.
This is different than defending yourself. That can be warranted. But from what was described here, the one defending himself would be her boyfriend. If someone was punching my arm, I'd probably push them away to make them stop.
good luck
Newbee18 cheating doesn't condone violence. I'm not condoning cheating at all but someone cheating doesn't mean they deserve a slap! If you cheated would you be ok with getting a slap? No that would be totally wrong, just because she's female does not give her the right to be physical.
Everyones opinion is different. Depends what the situation was about. If he cheated then hell yea he's going to be slapped or if he was hurting you. One time I had hit my bf because he kept bossing me around and grabbing me by the arm while.pregnant around 20 weeks. He gets to pushy n rude at times. Everyones opinion is different.
^ yes this forim is for pregnant ppl ....n theres nothing wrong with someone wanting a lil advice whether its about pregnancy wise or watevr.
Isn't this a forum for pregnant ppl? Not domestic violence and really vague questions that are pretty simply answered by anyone that knows right from wrong?
She should probably apologise to him to begin with and then consider if this was a one off due to a heated situation, in which case learn from the mistake and never hit anyone again, or if she has a tendency to lash out, think about getting some therapy for anger management.
Massively agree with the first post! If this post was the other way around and he had hit first and she pushed back everyone would be slamming the male so why would the reaction be any different just because your female. She was massively in the wrong to put her hands on anyone in a physical manner.
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