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i give up
i hafta leave this house TODAY. Im eighteen and my parents are awful. They think that bc my room gets messy it gives them a right to be hateful. A normal parent may get frustrated but my father allows my stepmom to call me profane names, then calls the family and tells them i deserve it. Ive told him over nd over i was raped by a cousin and he still allows him at the house and both parents laugh nd tlk to him as if hes great..im an artist and they write in sharpie on my artwork. They throw out clothes i buy with my money. They call me slutty, make fun of how i look, say im disgusting..spew off that im mentally cracked and the first thing they tell ppl is im bipolar or schitzophrenic when i have neither. My dads family, which is huge, have done a lot of physical abuse in the past, but no one sees my side bc my dad nd stepmom paint a horrible picture. My own sisters insult me. Last night was awful bc my friends mom hadda infection so awful that she wud die if it wasnt fixed. No one wud take her to the hospital
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Well good luck to you, at least you have left what seemed to be an abusive situation for you, I wish you well ,I hope you BF works out okay, you have faith in him so its worth a try . if he makes you happy its a good thing .. best of luck
i left bc my parents called the cops. I live with a friend now nd im trying to take my life back. I cudnt stay bc my suicidal tendencies were returning. I understand a parent throwing out inappropriate clothes but like i said im 18 which makes it unacceptable. My clothes may be diff but im no ****, just kinda goth. I know that matt seems mean but we tlked through it. Weve been together seven months nd i call him my fiance bc thats wat i hope he will become. I have good intuition so i wont meet matt alone. Im a tough chick so im not afraid nd if he was 30 it wud still be legal..matt is 25 nd did meth so i understand his mood swings. Hes told me about his past, his teeth nd even told me he had oral sex while we were together..he hides nothing. He makes me happy which is a difficult task. If hes a phony, itll hurt but ive been through alot..ill deal
Great advice I am glad you are healing,you speak some truth and its a help to others going through the same ...sounds like you are winning ..
I grew up with anxiety due to my mom's binge drinking on the weekends, and then verbally abusing my father it was so bad..Even today I have anxiety and I'm 40s..I always worked but was a stay at home kid, but still partyd too..aka had fun with my friends anything that would get me out of the house. I grew up in what appeared to be a June Cleaver household, but it was nothing like! I have ptsd today, and am in treatment for many issues due to my upbringing, and other happenings beyond..I'll be ok am healing slowly..I acted out impulsively some good, some not without thinking, spoiled brat behavior kicking and screaming if I didn't get my way. I didn't yell or anything back, or leave but from a young age remember scribbling with pencil or pen on my parents mahogany bedroom furniture designs to act out my emotions as well the artist in me my parents ignored. Anyhow my sister used to call me crazy, and my mother too not my father then he was really not home alot. It hurts, and eventually catches up with us, or the children of children who were abused verbally/emotionally the same as physical abuse to me..So get out of this environment, and breathe. Seek out a support group to help you so you will! have a good happy life ok...Hang on you'll get through this, but you must believe in yourself first that you can make it out there on your own. Surround yourself with good loving people as you deserve alright. Take care! P
Blended families almost never work out well for the kids. Usually they're more tolerable than this, though.
Are you graduating in May? Then you only have a couple months more. It's in your benefit to stay right where you are, and make the best of it. If you leave now, you're homeless.
Keep your room neat. Try not to say anything off-putting. Just get through it.
You don't say what clothes you've bought that they've thrown away, but I've thrown away my kid's clothes before, that they bought with their own money. One t-shirt advertising ZigZag, one American Eagle t-shirt, had a logo "Dewar and Run, attorneys at law" on the front. In the garbage. So you don't say whether completely acceptable clothing is going missing, or this is stuff they absolutely will no tolerate their child being seen wearing.
In the future, your friend's mother should call an ambulance if she has a life threatening infection. You don't say what exactly was going on there, but she isn't reliant on the parents of her daughter's friends if she's dying.
Best wishes. You sound like oddman out in your family, like everyone else is one way and you're a different kind of person with a personality that doesn't match the rest of the group, and when you've graduated and you're out on your own you can choose to associated with people who are more like you.
BTW, I went to your profile. Be very very wary of calling a man your "fiance" if you've never even met him and he's mean and manipulative. For all you know - really - that guy's a 37 year old pot bellied registered sex offender. Stick with people you actually know.
Are you graduating in May? Then you only have a couple months more. It's in your benefit to stay right where you are, and make the best of it. If you leave now, you're homeless.
Keep your room neat. Try not to say anything off-putting. Just get through it.
You don't say what clothes you've bought that they've thrown away, but I've thrown away my kid's clothes before, that they bought with their own money. One t-shirt advertising ZigZag, one American Eagle t-shirt, had a logo "Dewar and Run, attorneys at law" on the front. In the garbage. So you don't say whether completely acceptable clothing is going missing, or this is stuff they absolutely will no tolerate their child being seen wearing.
In the future, your friend's mother should call an ambulance if she has a life threatening infection. You don't say what exactly was going on there, but she isn't reliant on the parents of her daughter's friends if she's dying.
Best wishes. You sound like oddman out in your family, like everyone else is one way and you're a different kind of person with a personality that doesn't match the rest of the group, and when you've graduated and you're out on your own you can choose to associated with people who are more like you.
BTW, I went to your profile. Be very very wary of calling a man your "fiance" if you've never even met him and he's mean and manipulative. For all you know - really - that guy's a 37 year old pot bellied registered sex offender. Stick with people you actually know.
You are old enough to get a job and leave home. Fixing other people is much more difficult than fixing yourself. People say you can't escape, that you have to face the problem and deal with it. Baloney! Escape is great. And it's easy. I left home at 19 and my life changed. The miserable mother I left still lived her miserable life.
I am sorry you are having such a hard time ,have you a school counselor you can talk to , explain what is happening to you. No one should call you names , perhaps your Dad is the one you should talk to tell him how hurt you feel .Its time to become strong and get some help good luck
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