Thankyou. I know i have to report this person to help myself get over it, and as you say to prevent him doing it again. I wasn't going to report him because he is old now and i didn't want to hurt my family or his but when i think about how badly my life has been affected because of his actions why should he get away with it. I have suffered from panic attacks and anxiety and argraphobia and ptsd and depression, for 16 yrs and basically its all his fault, i am so angry at him. I just hope i can cope with whats a head of me. Thanks for the response
inneed, I don't know what the statute of limitations is in the UK (I tried to look it up on line for you but couldn't) but here in the US it's 10 years after the victim reaches adulthood.
Call the police and find out what you can do -
If he abused you, it's likely he abused others he had access to. If he's not completely incapacitate it's likely it's still continuing.
Best wishes.
I haven't much faith in the police i reported an incident last year and i felt they investigated me more than the incident but i know thats the route i would have to go. I can't even properly remember what age he would be i think he as around forty or so at the time so he might not be that old. You could be right he could be still doing it. Thanks
It is kind of you to consider the impact on his family, and yours. But no matter how old he is, it is right he should face squarely and deal with the consequences of his actions.
Is there an abuse support helpline that you could call for advice?
I'm not sure if there is or not i will try and find out, i don't know if i could cope facing it or not but another part of me wants to i am so angry at him. I know i can call the police and then they investigate it but i don't know if i would cope or not. I really do need to talk it over with someone thanks.
My goodness, how you must have suffered emotionally all this time. It's good that you are in therapy, and have some way to express your feelings openly in a safe environment.
God bless, and take care.
Good luck with everything.
Ginger