i doubt a 3 yr old would have damaged their hymen through riding a bike or anything but who knows! but i dunno that id poke around looking .
i agree that i think the kids need counselling or to tlk to someone, i dont know if u could ask this kid if he touched ur daughter, at 13 u kinda know what ur doing. he may well lie, but u might be able to tell if he is or not.
yea dont let them bath your daughter and at least if ur aware there is a problem u can keep an eye out.
you know you could look at her just w/o her even knowing pay attention act like your powdering her or drying her pee pee when she is laying down to put her pjs on..loook for redness, swelling, tears, if your able to spread the vaginal lips a bit you should be able to tell if hymen is intact. However many many kids break their hymen through rough play, even a bike fall can cause that to happen.
I feel the dynamics here require some looking at, so I would suggest that all the children should receive some counselling and maybe an evaluation from an Expert. This could be an going thing and the children need protecting.What does your husband have to say, as they are his family?my daughter and my neice came to me and told me my neice gramfather had beem putting his hand inside their panties my daughter only once but the neice did not knoe what to do i rold my sis and we told her mother in law and we got the ole goat and took care of the situation so please watch your little girl close anything can happen and you are not fraking out but never let any boy help bathe a small child especially if it is a girl as they are made different luck jo
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I raised 3 daughters and told them anytime someone put their hands inside or near where they pee pe to come to me or a person they trust my advice was good my daughter and my neice came to me and told me my neice gramfather had beem putting his hand inside their panties my daughter only once but the neice did not knoe what to do i rold my sis and we told her mother in law and we got the ole goat and took care of the situation so please watch your little girl close anything can happen and you are not fraking out but never let any boy help bathe a small child especially if it is a girl as they are made different luck jo
PS you are definatly Not Hypo- paranoid ,you are correct to go with your gut feelings ..
Reading your post I feel that there is more going on ,but it would be hard to point the finger, my gut feeling would be that this is learned behavior,and someone has shown all these children some of the behavior you describe,it could have been the eldest who isnt there now, and it has been passed along, what grown ups have had access to the children particularly the eldest child,when she was younger, who was the care taker, is their Dad around, babysitters, other family, you say there are 2 bio children how old are they / boys and girls? this is complicated and really I feel the dynamics here require some looking at, so I would suggest that all the children should receive some counselling and maybe an evaluation from an Expert. This could be an going thing and the children need protecting.What does your husband have to say, as they are his family?