My boyfriend threathens me to put naked pictures of me if i leave him

[blondekiss]

We was going out for 1 year then ,we was in love , but it all started when i moved to his. he started hitting me everyday he was hitting me harder and harder and care less and make me cry but tell me to shut up and caried on hitting me.I had enough then so  i run away and he was ringing me up everyday to take him back , and i was stupid enough to believe him that he's going to change. I was young then.
So i took him back and he said if he ***** it up again i can leave him but he didn't he knew that he **** it up and started hitting me and not letting me go back home.after couple days he asked me to take nude pictures of me and i said no , he made me and i was all in tears but he didn't care he said if i don't do it he's going to beat me and took them.

After that i said i don't want to be with him i want to leave and he said if i'm going to leave him he's going to put all of the pictures on facebook and everyone that i know is going to laught at me etc.
I don't know what can i do to stop him or who do i tell or how to leave him!
He controlls all my life , doesn't let me do anything without his permission , like i can't laugh,cry,get up when i want , i have to do exactly what he says i have to do or he will beat me up , witha remote controller,stick or hammer , i already have loads of bruises and scars everywhere but mainly he hits my foot and toes. He does anything from punching my head in to punching or kicking my body , or elbowing my back or ribs. :(
Now i cry 24/7 sometimes when he sees me but sometimes when i am in my bedroom or bathroom and have bad times at college , i never smile now or talk , and all my friends are asking me if i am alright and what's wrong with me . I used to be very happy and smiley,talkative person. I can't do this anymore I want to leave him but i can't he keeps me in his house i haven't got key because of the last time , he says i will never have key anymore.
He swears at me everyday and expects me to be nice to him which i can't do because i don't want to be with him so he makes me to be nice to him when he beats me up i already had black eyes 3 times and haven't seen my family because of that. he decides everything for me and when i can go out or when i can see my family.   now im his for over 2 years :(
Any advice here please!!

[kenneltech]

There are places to go where you will feel safe and where you can learn job skills as well as gain independence.  A battered women's shelter.  He will not know where you live as these shelters are highly guarded, and they will teach you some work related skills.  Also, they will show you how to live your life independently as well as making arrangements for you to see an attorney.  There are many attorney's that volunteer thier time to battered women's shelters.

Get out, now.

[whatswrongwithus]

You should leave as soon as you have a chance. Run to the nearest police station and tell them whats going on. They'l protect you until something can be done. Don't ever go back to him, no mater what he says. This is not something to joke around with. Something really bad always happens in the end, and you need to date a man, any male that hits a woman is NOT a man, he is a 'thing', 'a creature', 'an animal', NOT a man. Would you date a pitbull? No, so don't date this 'thing' either. Leave AS SOON as you can, don't wait any longer. ~C

[kittycat1433]

Idon't like that sympathy mess.It takes me along time to go over word's and miss spelled word's.And YES she should kick his butt to the curb looser big time!!!

[allmymarbles]

Sometimes a member just wants sympathy, not advice. Face it, in an uncomplicated case like this the advice is always the same - get rid of him. So why ask the question?

[kittycat1433]

I can't stand it when someone post and then they never come bk to let anyone know what's goin on.

[kittycat1433]

Well your *** better start saying your prayer's someone is going to die or very, very, well could you need to go as fast as you can to the women's shelter i have been here and done this the psycho commited sucide praise the lord meanest man alive a rabbid pitt-bull.So grab what u can and run girl and i mean run leave everything if u have to they eill get u clothes etc.U fill out some papers tell them wht is going on and they will eep u safe from him.A restraining order willdo NOTHING to keep u safe NOTHING he could come and kill you and be gone ya he may have had a order but it dosen't stop crazy ppl like this he will come order or not belive that and the abuse WILL get worse imagine that im telling you u better get to a shelter going to ur family and all unless someone u know lives out of state and u could get there in my situation i was in that would not @ all be something i could have done i had 0 dollar's and o cent's and any money i may get he took.Does he work?If so get ur **** then and get very little and run an never look bk ever u can't expect to let someone do this to u and like i said it usually dosen't have a pretty ending!!B4 u do this take a deap breath sigh and get the hell out of there and it is not a easier said than done thing u just do it and u will be safe.Kitty Good luck.

[allmymarbles]

There are some cases of abuse I understand, and some I don't. I feel great sympathy for a mother who has no work skills and who has to depend on the paycheck from an abusive husband to feed her children. Her problem is hard to solve. But I don't understand a woman who willingly accepts abuse. Much has been written about the motivation of abusive partners, but almost nothing about those who accept the abuse. It takes two to tango. You are part and parcel of the abusive relationship, and placing the blame on half the duo does not solve your personal problem.

[teko]

I think a restraining order might be in order here. You can also talk to the judge and tell him your fears and the judge can address that in the restraining order as well, then if he does do it (which I do not think he would, as he sounds very self serving at best), he will go to jail and that is big! Go to the courthouse get a restraining order, get the police to accompany you to get your stuff, and get out! Now while you still can. Then find a therapist to help you undo the damage done from this relationship and to help you identify the red flags to keep you from ending up in a similar situation with someone else.

[cheshchesh819]

get the hell out,go straight to the police tell themwhat he has been doing to you and what his intentions are coz you have left,you cannot and should not put up with this,are you male?,one things for sure you are too young too put up with that crap

[blondekiss]

but thank youu guys !!

[blondekiss]

i'm not 17 now im 18 :((

[margypops]

I agree with rock Rose leave it doesnt matter what he threatens , tell the police if he is threatening you physically ..you are male and you have been with him since you were 15 well maybe your parents will help..if you leave .This should be taken seriously ,leave and inform the police and your family ...

[RockRose]

blonde,  if you really are 17 as  your profile says,  if he posts your pics on a website it's kiddy porn.  I don't think he wants to go there.

Call your family,  and get out of there.  This is how women get killed by crazy men.