Where is Igkuriger?

[CML2014]

I have not been here for a while and was reading thru some posts and came upon a post by Igkuriger. Why is it that so many come here bearing their soul and asking for help so desperately, yet when they get a response that requires them to "do the work" they get angry at the poster for telling them the truth. Do they not realize that until they can accept the cold hard facts of their addiction they are stuck in a revolving door . Are they coming here to have their hand held? Well that isn't going to help, they have been doing that themselves.

Life is tough enough, but when your an alcoholic it complicates things further. You and You alone have to step up to the plate and do the work it requires to get and stay sober. So once in a while you are going to get slapped in the face with the truth. Until you can accept that truth without getting angry and defensive...well you are just not ready for sobriety are you?

Everyone on this site is an alcoholic or a recovering alcoholic. We know where we and others are and have been. So the "It is not as easy as black and white" comments on not drinking is wasted on the choir. Like we don't know that, LOL!!! Yikes , we are just trying to save the next person from going through all the BS we went thru.

So all of this has been of course My Opinion Only not speaking for anyone else. I know I can seem harsh, but I will be damned if I am going to hold someone's hand as their lives go down the toilet from alcoholism . I did not fight to stay sober so I could watch others of my ilk die, just to say I told you so.

Thank you for listening to my semi-rant, even if this doesn't get posted I understand.

Sincerely, CML  

[ibizan]

We were ALL offenders until we got humble......and thats not easy to do...but necessary!i'm so grateful i didn't kill anyone w/my blackout drunk driving...and i did a lot of it b4 I sobered up!and lucky i didn't OD in my sleep w/all my mix n/match drug combos......oh yes ladies....we're indeed blessed to have woken up!

[CML2014]

Thank you, Ibizan , for allowing this to post and for seeing my point.
10356--I would have said it the exact same way you did. You as the offender was in the eye of the beholder. You spoke the truth.

The important point both of you made is like I said " if you are still running around getting defensive and angry when told your a drunk" then you are not ready to get Sober. It takes a great deal of humility to admit your out of control. That humility is what allows you to give yourself over to a "Higher power" and that power can be whatever keeps you strong, even your own WILL.

Great posts ! Now if we can get Igkuriger back to read them, then we have accomplished something.
Thanks
CML

[10356]

I appreciate this post as I seem to be the offender... My Point was with all the planning to quit, she could quit Now and stop the suffering Instead of just speaking of quitting.. I also was not handed my recovery I'm Grateful for this for if I was I would have relapsed by now.. Before I quit if someone mentioned my drinking I became very offended and would get angry How dare they mention my drinking I knew what I was doing I knew what I needed but deep inside I knew they were right. I hope she returns and gets sober I would not wish a drunk life on anybody.. It was a sadder place for me to be in then even now getting ready for dialysis... lesa

[ibizan]

Quite frankly I love your post!:)No one held my hand or gave me warm fuzzy's when i made the committment to get sober/clean 30 years ago.Out of 8 family members 2 were supportive.6 said its your problem,go handle it,we don't want to hear @ it!So I did!You hit the nail on the head when you said many come here asking for help,but when they hear the truth and the big R word-taking RESPONSIBILITY for their recovery...many get quite defensive,we don't know what we're talking @,they can handle controlled use...AND their the exception to the rules!Sound familiar?that was ME before i buckled down,so I let it roll and hope they'll get serious but no one can do that work for them but them!There is a lot of truth to the saying "we like the easier,softer way...but that always ended me up loaded and in a blackout!I make much better choices today!