4 outta last 7 days drunk/ Is that a problem?

[Omusicgame]

4 outt the last 7 days i have been drunk.  My wife was out on a breast cancer walk for 4 days, and 3 of those i got drunk.  I had a friend sleep over (Who i am really trying to help) but i guess its not right because my friend is a girl.  We didnt do anything, and she slept on the couch.  But all we did was smoke and drink.  I missed my wife cross the finish line because i didnt get enough sleep due to the excessive drinking and smoking.  When she came back, she asked me if I had a problem, and I told her I didnt know.  Yesterday, I got drunk with my friend again, and when I came home, my wife was pissed, and even mentioned divorce.  I cant help it though, that getting drunk with my friend is so fun.  I even was thinking of my friend, like when i was laying in bed, i thought of her and not my wife.  I was thinking how like we can go out to places, and we look like that couple.  Like that cool couple, who dont give a ****.  Then when i get drunk with her, i like to mess around, just putting my arm around her and stuff, and messing, and her telling me im crazy and im bad and i like it more.  The fact of the matter is, I dont think i could ever get with her, because she is too too crazy and gone, and she might not really need a boyfriend right now.  With my wife, she is stable, she keeps me on the right track, but it gets so boring sometimes.  I dont know, its so confusing.  What do you think?

[ibizan]

OMG boy ur bad...but like mae west said when i'm bad i'm better!and that u r!

[rpooo]

I saw in an earlier post you made you refered to your sister as being crazy and now your "friend". A term you use loosely i think. kinda different but whatever. Let me tell you a peice of advice and i bet you already know it. It is impossible for a man and a woman to be friends with out one or the other having some kind of feelings that are inappropriate.  Your wife is not stupid she knows the deal yet she is giving you a chance to make things right by her. She deserves it! Keep the honor the promise you made when you got married! Theres a lot better things in life then being drunk, sleeping around and playing in a band.

I bet there are a lot of guys out there that wouldnt mind getting your wife drunk and being her "friend" for the past 3 or 4 days! ha! Kinda really ticks you off doesn't it? What comes around goes around, do you get the point? Take my "friends" advice! LMAO

[narla]

You are putting your marriage,not to mention your whole life on the line,for what?a so called friend,for fun,
You need to get real with yourself,life isn't always fun,and neither is marriage it needs to be worked at,fun at the bottom of a bottle isn't real.

[ibizan]

I third the opinions of my esteemed cyberecovery friends here rod and sara...i am a TCM fan...the other morning i was watching a old movie and it was said that "A man never realizes what kind of love he has lost until it walks out the door on him".U have posted in this forum a lot in the past.....hope u find your way to get sober....or the losses will occur...including ur wife!

[rod44]

I agree with EVERYTHING Sara said.

You are supposed to be" helping" this so called friend, you need to start helping yourself. AA is a good place to start....sooner rather than later.

[dominosarah]

I think you better run to an AA meeting or therapist.  You are about to lose alot of good things in your life over your alcohol use.  You and your so called friend are toxic together, not to mention she is a female and you are married.  How would you feel if your wife was doing this sort of thing?  Put down the bottle, talk to your wife HONESTLY about what is going on and get some help.  Alcohol will take you down a very dark dead end road.  Please get some help before it is too late as you are running out of time by the sounds of it.       sara