This is more venting I suppose than a question. Thankful my Mom stopped drinking 13 years ago (I'm 54 and in my lifetime prior to 13 years ago, only know of a 3 to 6 month period she didn't drink.) I believe many years of prayers by me (and two of my long-time friends) were answered in helping her quit drinking. My Mom is a different person than she was (she was mean and verbally abusive to her kids when she was drunk) and I feel blessed to have this sober time to enjoy the truly wonderful person she is, and the real gifts she has to offer. Unfortunately and sadly, my twin sister is still extremely angry at my mother for the things she failed to do when were kids and young adults--and at my father for leaving her to care for us, and for having his own mental health dysfunction which was never until age 84 addressed! As a result, my twin sister lacks compassion and now that my mother's health as well as my father's is bad, she won't help with caregiving (and complains if money goes toward their care--their money, but apparently in her mind, they owe her inheritance???) I feel like she's punishing my Mom and my Dad for their mistakes. I just wish siblings in alcoholic families could get help and start behaving more functionally as adults. I've been in therapy off and on for decades so I've been able by the grace of God to forgive and move on. I fear by the end of this caregiving journey I'll have lost all respect for my twin sister because of this punitive attitude toward my parents....and my younger sister has mental health health problems which she's not really addressing, so instead of helping with the folks or just being generally noninvolved, she acts in an obstructionist way in terms of withholding simple (but necessary) information, refusing to answer questions in terms of planning, etc. It's hard enough dealing with 2 parents with dementia---but the sibling stuff is actually sometimes worse....Thanks for letting me vent...