Staying sober while boyfriend refuses to quit

[Macker18]

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and when we first met, we were nothing but drinking buddies who happened to be neighbors.  After a couple months of doing nothing but drinking and partying together we decided to make it official.  I come from a background of alcoholic families, and I saw how much it tore my familymembers apart so I sociably drank and kept my cool.  About a year ago I got into the liquor instead of the beer and that totally took control of my life.  It was brought to my attention by the boyfriend that my drinking was becoming a problem when I frequently got into fist fights with people at bars, and also family members during famiily get togethers.  I also had many verbal arguements with the boyfriend.  I recently became sober with only 12 days behind my belt, and the boyfriend refuses to stop drinking.  He bought a 30 pack that is out in the shop just watching me as I pass by and it's extremely hard for me to quit while he crawls into bed smellling like a bar gone wrong!!  His excuse for not quiting is that :He's not the one with a problem, it's me!"  I asked for him to support me and not be a hypocrit and to help me through this hard time and he refuses.  I've been a little baby hungry now for a little over a year and he said I must stay sober for 3 months in order for us to try, and I asked him to stay sober with me through this time and he said no way.  What do I do?  Thanks for reading...

[Kresaera]

If he can't stop drinking for you then there shouldn't be baby plans. He won't quit after baby if he won't quit now. My husband and I got clean together and it was rough. We met using and we had to learn who we were all over again.

Your sobriety is yours to handle. If its hard to be sober with him, then you may have to be sober without him.

[wyoga]

Wonderful!

[Phtartist]

A baby!
He's not taking your being sober serious enough to not drink and you want a baby with him?
If he doesnt think he has a problem, tell him to try 90 days.
All that aside, your sobriety is YOURS. It is important that you focus on yourself. There is Alanon a group for people who have loved ones who drink. Even though you are getting sober, you still fall into that catagory. If he went to one of the Alanon meetings, he may learn the importance of not drinking around you.
17 years ago I was going through this same exact issue with my husband. We now both celebrate this month, 17 years.