The last drink you took

[MlovesD]

Does everyone know the date? My boyfriend claims he doesn't know, and I don't think I buy that answer.

I also accused him of being drunk last night, but I have no proof, since he only sounded it (talked to him over the phone). Today, I told him not to call me until he's ready to admit he's drinking again and ready to do something about it. Having no proof is the hardest part, because he just tells me he's not, but I'm willing to take that risk.

Oh, and I'm going to my first alanon meeting tonight. Finally taking everyone's advice.

[FriaryGrad]

When I was in rehab they told us if we didn't remember the day we had our last drink we probably haven't had it yet.  I remember:  September 25, 2008.  If he doesn't remember, I doubt he is through drinking.  Be sure to take care of yourself; you cannot control or cure him.

[ibizan]

The date of my last drink and drug was 11-22-83!i remember what bar i was in,what i was wearing and the most Godawful hangover i had the next day.I entered inpatient treatment 11-28-83 and exited 12-21-83 back in2 the real world where i began my recovery program.Best damn gift i ever gave myself!:)

[NonAlcoholic]

I know not only the exact date but relatively the exact TIME that I had my last drink. Your boyfriend's vagueness is indicative of guilt IMO.

[Kerano]

Good for you!!!
I'm a firm believer that if your gut feeling says that he is drinking, you are probably right.
I attended AlAnon meetings many moons ago, and I was surprised how much they knew about me and my situation.  I didn't realize that the disease's stories are pretty consistent.
What I took away from it was that I learned a lot about boundries, and how much I would, and would not take from others.  I also learned that there was nothing I did to provoke the drinking, nor was it my fault.  I could not make him stop drinking, nor would I be there to take the blame for it either.
In my situation, it was necessary for me to walk away from the relationship -- he became violent and abusive when he drank.  The good news is, he sobered up many years later, and I never regretted the decisions I made for the mental and physical health for my family.
Stay tough sista - it is well worth it.