Feeling Like a Target

[designerdave]

i feel that everything that i do is in question. As our famalies executor, my brothers have micro managed me every step of the way, and do not like my ability to work independently in making decisions in regards to finances, and estate matters. after 2 1/2 years I am mentally worn out by their bullying and mis trust . This behavior now has me second guessing every aspect of my service, even feeling highly anxious when the subject arrises. I need help, what can I do?

[remar]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've been through it too and I know how you're feeling. It seems that when we lose a loved one there can be family problems. There will be people who want control or want your input, even though you're not asking for it.
You were made executor for a reason. This is a fact and it can not be changed. Apparently your family member knew you were the right person to handle things. You have to stick to your guns, so to say, and let your other family members know that there will be no fighting and things will not be changed because your loved one left YOU in charge.
I've seen this happen so many times in families and it's a shame. It's very stressful for the person that was left in charge.
We're here to listen and help any way we can.  

[Jerry_NJ]

If you brothers know so much why isn't one of them the executor?  Have you offered?  

I have no idea what type of decisions you are making, if they deal with your parents, then do what you think is best for them, regardless of what you brothers say.  Get tough!