Genes

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Today I was told that my mum is 76.4% likely to get cancer. Because its in her genes. I felt like someone had ripped my heart out of my chest. She deserves the best life, every night I see her slaving away in the kitchen. But most of all I was angry. I lf anything, anything EVER happened to my mother, then would deffonately be nothing stopping me from comitting suicide. I would always want best for my family...

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I often get detentions at school for being late as I miss my bus in a morning as I have to do housework. I make tea when I get home from school for the five of us. Don't even go there saying I don't help my family *****.

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I do help my mum, I sort out her clothes in a morning. I often get detentions d

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Thank you, I know I shouldn't be worrying yet. I just really needed to let my anxiety out and relax. I'm so sorry if I came across rude xxx

[kickanxietysbutt]

First of all, just because it is in her genes does not mean that she IS going to get cancer.  Any of us who have any kind of ailment in our genes are more likely to get said ailment, but that doesn't mean that we will.  Statistics say that one in three women will get cancer in their lifetime...that is already 33% in itself.  It could happen to any of us, or it couldn't.  

I lost my dad to cancer three years ago and is it hard?  Yes.  Does it suck?  Yes.  Does it still sometimes make me mad?  Yes.  But...that doesn't mean that my life is no longer worth living.  If anything happened to your mom she wouldn't want you to end your life because of it.  Right now you are worrying for nothing.  Enjoy all the time you have with your mom right now, and if she ends up having cancer or any other kind of ailment later down the road, deal with it then.  There is no sense in worrying about a problem that isn't even there.  That is just going to take away from the good time that you do have left with her.

[RubyWitch]

I can certainly understand your concerns regarding your mother, but try to look on the positive side. Now that she is aware her risks are higher, she can do a great deal to alter her lifestyle to beat those odds. She can also visit her doctor for regular check-ups. Cancer is no longer the death sentence it once was, and a vast majority of cancers, caught early, can be treated or cured.

You can play a big role in helping your mother which will benefit both of you. By supporting and encouraging your mom in her lifestyle changes, you are helping to keep her on track. This in turn, will make you feel like you are doing everything you can to help your mom be around for many years to come. And let's not have any more talk about suicide, OK? Your mom isn't going anywhere.
You obvioulsy love your mom very, very much and we know how devastated you would be to lose her. That's why it would be so incredibly special of you to support and help her as much as you can.

Which is why, when you wrote......"every night I see her slaving away in the kitchen,"   I just couldn't help but think to myself "well, if she doesn't want her mom to die, I wonder why she doesn't get off her butt and go help?" But, ya know, like, that's just my opinion.
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