whats wrong with me?

[m4tty]

Well i met this girl and i really like her and she likes me but after we started dating i have been feeling really bad anxiety and i dont know why...i feel confused if i like her or not and this has been going on for a week and i dont know why. I have no reason to not like her though. The other morning when i woke up my first thought was i really like her and my heart was beating really fast and it was hard to breathe. It might be because im afraid since i have had alot of bad experiences but i really cant figure it out. Does anyone have any thoughts or ideas what it could be? i just started going to counseling but its only once a week and i really cant wait that long the feeling is annoying.

[billpaxil]

It sounds like you are worried about whether you are making the right decision to date her or not... right girl or not....?  Take things one day at a time and just enjoy each others company.
Also, I think it makes since you feel anxious as you have had some negative past experiences in relationships.
You don't have to ask yourself is this the one, or is this for ever.  Just enjoy the relationship, one day at a time.
Try to let the thoughts and fears of her finding someone else flow into your mind and out.
Another words get your mind on something else.
Also try to stay balanced with hobbies, friends, family, spiritual involvment, career/meaningful work/volunteer work.  This will keep your mind healthy, and hopefully prevent the suspicious, jealous, insecure thoughts.  Also, this will continue to aid her attraction toward you, as you have a life.
Also, always continue to work on your self-esteem.  Identify your successes, strenghts, and accomplishments.  Engage in activites that aid you in feeling good about yourself.
Also, the source of the anxiety may be fear of losing her.  When we have something to lose it can be scary, but worth it.
You may also be affraid she may reject you.  
Take the chance.  Be honest, but, leave a little mystery.  Aren't relationships confusing?
Just because you have anxiety doesn't necessary mean she is the wrong person for you.  Look into your past, and ask yourself how is my past relationships affecting my present.  Also, try some relaxation techniques including: stay in the present, deep breathing, meditation, and your doctor approved ppropriate exercise.
What happened at the start of the week, when the anxiety began?
What were your thoughts at that time?
Continue with counseling, and take care of yourself.
Someone who cares.

[nora006]

You might actually know the answer to your question yourself:)

You wrote:
"The other morning when i woke up my first thought was i really like her and my heart was beating really fast and it was hard to breathe. It might be because im afraid since i have had alot of bad experiences but i really cant figure it out."

And then:
"Also forgot to add the thought of her being with someone else and liking someone else and her cheating on me makes it worse."


It is called ambivalence. Because of your bad experiences you're afraid to like her(hence you experience confusion).
Maybe you are afraid to get involved but then again you like her and the thought of her being with someone else etc(loosing her) upsets you. I can easily understand how annoying these opposing feelings are.

You will need to work on this together with your counsellor and it might take a little while to find your way out of it or you might figure it out quickly. Either way, I wish you the best of luck.


Nora

[m4tty]

Also forgot to add the thought of her being with someone else and liking someone else and her cheating on me makes it worse.