I've been having serious problems

[Soulja_West]

I'm a 20 year old male and I slept with this women on march 4th, 2008 and about 2 weeks later my throat starting feeling strange. It was like something was stuck in my throat and it comes and goes. I don't know if the girl I slept with had anything but people told me that she was sexually active a while back but since then she had come down when she had her baby. I did use protection and the condom did slipped off a little bit but it was still on. It never came completey off.

Whats so funny about this is during the time that I slept with her, I didn't have a condom. She was the one who gave me the condom so I'm pretty sure that she doesn't have nothing because it appears to me that she practice safe sex but my mind keeps telling me that maybe I did get something and besides, wouldn't she be preganant if the condom slipped all the way off because I did ejaculate in her with the condom on. Thats been on my mind for days and so far she isn't preganat which is another good sign. Once my throat starts acting up on me thats when I started to worry. I started taking a lot of defferent types of medicnes for my throat but none of it work. When I say I took alot of different medinces I mean I really took alot of different medicnes.

I think the mediicnes along with stress, axneity and depression only made things worest for me. Several days later I went to the doctor and they checked my throat and they couldn't find nothing wrong. They said that they only see a little bit of redness but nothing major. They also checked the side of my neck for lumps but didn't find any so the doc gave me some antiboatic pills to take for my throat but I only took 3 of them and didn't take the rest because It didn't seem to work which was a mistake. I should have taking all of them.

Durning this time I went on the internet to check for symptoms of hiv and every since I did that it seems like I was developing those symptoms. It caused me to stress badly and I couldn't work or do nothing. I was always crying and going in and out of the docoters officers. Several more days after that happened I got all kind of blood work including an HIV test which came out negative but I didn't know at the time that you had to wait atleast 14 weeks before HIV to show up in your blood. When I herd that I started stressing more and more and anxiety made it even worest. I forgot to mention that the docters also did a P24 test or something like that and it came out negative. I don't know what that is but I was happy to know it came out negative.

I also started developing burning sensations in my arms and legs along with achs and pains and my ear, teeth, and head also started hurting. Sometimes my arms and legs will get really hot making it hard to sleep at night. Sometimes the back on my head will feel hot and when I go to sleep my hands and fingers will sometimes go to sleep which is scaring the hell out of me. I truley hope that anexity along with stress and depression is causing all of this. It almost happens every night. I told my doctoer about this and he said it could be anexity causing tihs and also causing my throat not to get better.

I also have this lump under my arm and I tryed to bust it but when I did that it hurt so I left it along.  It kinda swell and then went back down about a day later and I got this small lump on the side of my leg that doesn't hurt. Its tender and it too is also scaring me to death. All I want to know is can my mind along with searching every site of the net for symtoms of HIV can cause some of these symptoms to appear? I don't have a fever and my temperture is normal but I have been sneezing and my family says it could be allergys. My throat don't feel like that when I'm having fun but when I'm worried it seems to get back bad again. I don't know what to do and the doc said it could be acid reflux but the acid reflux medicine is messing up my stomach so I stopped taking that.

My cousin who works with the girl told me that the girl I slept with doesn't have hiv because he said the job were he works at gives drug and blood test and he said that on the 7th of januaray he and her went at the same time along with some more people got a blood test and he said his came out good and he said if she had anything she woudn't be working at wendys because he said that wendys do blood and drug test.

That was a sign of releif but everytime i get a bump or start to sneeze i get back worried thinking I might have HIV. Alot of people that i've talked to about the girl that I slept with said that she doesn't have anything or either they don't know. Thats a good sign right? Also, she does have a child and I don't think her child has anything because she looks healhty along with the mother but the mother back in her day was kinda wild but since then has calmed down now that she had her baby. Until this day I'm still worried even though my cousin and my family said that she doesn't have anything and that there is nothing wrong with me.

My throat has been like this since early march and now its april and its still bothering me. They're telling I'm making myself sick by stressing and worrying for no reason. I hope they're right because I want to get back to normal.

[Fergman]

did you go down?  I know a guy who had gonorrea of the throat.  If you had gonorrea in the pelvic area, you would certainly know it by now.  To be on the safe side, you may want to get a penicillen prescription to be on the safe side.  There's no embarrassment in that.

[Majestic_Star]

when i got shingles it started with  what thought was a sty in my eye then my ear hurt i i thought well an ear ach too.....hmmm till i started getting this bump quarter size on my forehead  started small hurt  thought oh great a spider bite but all at once? i got real worried and googled symptoms  not too long after that my neck hurt and may i add this was all on one side of my head  and i was freaking out when i saw a huge knot bump  which  was my glands but anyway at that time i was soooo stressed out and stress weakens you immune system . I also have anxiety  this im sure doesnt help but my point was dont look for a virus or illness search you symptoms you can narrow it down with that lol i ended up in the E.R and told the Dr. i thought it was shingles and guess what he said   so i got the meds and guess what i ended back in the E.R  and guess what else it cost me a whole 11,ooo.00 $$$$$$ which how the hell can Americans afford  medical insurance im only 25  see im still stressed out  fother muck!

[lisa983]

really.... i don't believe u have a std, but u are worrying yourself to death, anxiety and panic are setting in, because u are constantly thinking you have a std . So your body reacts to your mind if your always telling yourself something is wrong with you..Your going to start noticeing little things. like before u ever slept with this girl im sure you had a random bump here and there. and about the throat for the last two months the pollen and mold count in the air has been threw the roof. and it will go away soon, but it just drys anyones throat out.. in my opinon your fine..  take a deep breath and relax


goodluck

[Majestic_Star]

i have heard and know a person who has herpes of the throat, and  last march i broke out with shingles which is caused by ever having chicken pox which is a herpes virus 2 but i broke out with shingles  due to stress and may i add its the worst painful virus! any way that could be.... but all the same get a full check-up  every year  even if there's no symptoms of anything

[suzi-q]

FYI- your throat can be allergies.  Many people come down with itchy throats this time of year.  

I also agree with everything JSGeare has said.

[JSGeare]

Easy ...it ain't. But necessary ...it IS.

Present all the symptoms to those qualified to evaluate them, bearing in mind that -at this time of year especially- scratchy throats, aches and pains kind of come with the territory even if you are celibate. There is nothing wrong with telling your doctor you are worried you caught something BAD -let them know your concern. Once all that is sone and the tests are in, if you still are nervous about it, then the problem most likely (as I have suggested) is elsewhere. It comes as no surprise that with all the media attention to SDT's that any one of us would think the worst. And most of the time, the worst that can happen is the expense and inconvenience of testing. Which simply means more extensive screening for the rare occasion when it DOES happen. My opinion is that SDT testing should be an automatic part of any routine physical. Hopefully, an AIDS/HIV test will be developed that allows a "right now" assay of your serum to see what's going on. A home test kit would be great, in my opinion. Your concerns are valid -just make sure that the TARGET of the concerns is also valid.

Thanks for the response, and hang in!

[Soulja_West]

I hope you are right because my throat have been acting up like this since the early days of march. It comes and goes and my burning sensations, and achs and pains have me concerned. I'll try to cut myself a break but it want be easy.

[JSGeare]

Everyone's experiences are uniquely their own. But some of the stories are very similar and yours was one I could have finished in my imagination after the first few sentences. Not trying to poke you with a stcik, here, rather, I'm trying to give you some good news. You are most likely free and clear of and SDT, HIV and the usual gang of suspects. I say this because your story, be it from the man's or woman's side, is oft told, and the fears expressed are oft repeated and not one has yet reported that the reality matched their fears.

You haven't asked for any particular advice or comment, but let me make an observation. The anxiety is way out of porportion to the probability of any probem. But your brain isn't really worried about the CHANCES of infection. No, you're worried about the CONSEQUENCES of infection -the big, "what if?"

Testa er one way to make the consequences seem evem more remote than they are now, but if you get all the tests -and everything comes back OK, you may STILL be bothered by the "what if." And that is a sure sign that the real problem is not in your immune system, nervous system, reproductive system, pores of your skin or other favorite haunts of SDT's, but rather in your THINKING. So I advise you to get some help with the thinking part, as well. Are you nutz? I doubt it. But are you obsessed? You betcha!  With all other causes and problems set aside, THAT is where the focus needs to be. So, cut yourself a break -and get the help.

Thanks for posting here and keep in touch, OK?