Oh my gosh your story is nearly identical to mine. Im so sorry to hear you have to go through this too. I am devastated by my 37 year old sons venom and his brutal attacks on my character, i am 57. I ache and weep all over. Its just too much, i am so shocked that it has come to this after all these years of loving him and trying my best. He is a bully. Not physically but with his words, identical to his father. Dont know what i can do anymore, im in a bad way with this really i am. I feel i am subjecting myself to abuse but i am desperate to continue seeing my only grandson who is under 5. Best wishes to you and much solidarity from me x
I am the victim of domestic violence i left my husband for a kinder, more caring man. My children 2 girls have never forgiven me and never will and my grandaughter, thanks to her mother also hates me. They take their fathers side even tbough he hit me on numerous occasions in front of them. I cant change it, i am depressed and upset but i have to accept it. I made mistakes but not as many as my ex but i am the devil, and hes the angel. I have stopped feeling guilty whjch makes things easier and i try to just live every day as well as i can. If you son changes his mind thats great, if not you did your best, hes an adult. Dont beat yourself up. Get on with your life
Thank you much for your commenting on the topic of an adult son who has made it clear that he does not like his mother, is very disrespectful, and makes his feelings well known. I too have this identical & heart-wrenching situation with my oldest son. I so wish I had access to the internet while my son was growing up and starting acting up at around the age of 15. I was a single mom (raising both my sons alone from the ages of 6 months & 4 years) when there father left me for (oh so familiar story right?) a secretary he worked with. I did take my son to numerous counselors, basically to no avail. At the age of 18 (+ a few weeks) I finally told him he had to leave and instructed him to go to his fathers house, which he did do. To this day he swears I kicked him out of the house. No, I've told him many times that I did ask him to go, but not just out on the street, directly to his dads house. Too many stories are rolling around in my head right now to explain what transpired from the age of 15 - 18. But, it was very, very difficult to try to raise him. My youngest son (now 22) was almost a breeze for me to raise and is doing well. I'm sure you need more information, but wondering if you have any suggestions for me at this time. This is an extremely painful situation for me to deal with, it hurts. Any helpful comments you have would be much appreciated. Thank you!!! SS
I am so sorry to hear that someone else is feeling the pain of a chidl who hates them. My son seems to believe everything his wife tells him about me. It seems that he picked me to be the one to hate. He know that his wife is a pathological lier, that she has addictive behavior, and that she dislikes me, but he dosen't care. He lashes out at me every chance he gets. I am always trying to help out in anyway that I can, but he just hates me. I never thought I would give birth to a child whom I thought could walk by and see me in need of CPR and he would keep walking. It's all because I won't accept his choice of women he wants to bring into our life. i.e., drug users, unfit mother, practice prostitution,; you name it she dose it. He seems to migrate to these type women. His first wife was a GOOD woman; hard worker, gave him his space, and she loves the family. He is very hard to read; he HATES me because he says I am the one who can make things work. He blames me because I won't accept the life style his wife lives and allow her to bring that life style into my home. When they got together we acepted her into our home and continured to do so until we found out what she was doing. At that time, everything changed and he realky started let his hatred for me be known.. I love him, but I just can't keep allowing him to walk on my hear and feelings. Is there anyone who can help me with "letting go"? He is 44 years old, but he is still my child.
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my son is 19 he walked alway from me also because of his sisters and a women iam hurt he is my only son and baby boy i miss him but i will not stand for him hurting me anymore with his words my daughter mean well but sometimes they hurt me also let god and let god work it out by SLD
I am new to the internet - this discussion is like an answer to my prayers - too upset to say more - thank you
No, your not a bad mother. His father taught your son how to act this way. I'm my family you learn at a very young age not to disrespect your mother, it's just not done.
Your son needs counseling and this is something only he can decide to do for himself. You can talk to him about it but you can't make him go.
I do understand about him being your only child. I have an only child myself. But you can not put up with the way he treats you.
It might take you separating yourself from him for awhile for him to come around and see that he needs help and can not treat you this way.
I hope things work out for you. I'm always here to listen. Take care. Remar