Separation Anxiety at 26?

[ScorpsGirl]

I am a 26 year old college graduate student. I am married to a wonderful husband whom I love dearly. My problem is that we just moved away from my parents, about a 21 hour drive. I have always been attached to them and have had problems in the past, mostly as a child, with leaving them. I did not think that separation anxiety happened in adults, but since leaving home I have been crying just about every night wanting to just go back home. Though we don't live in a terrible area I am anxious all night that something will happen to us and going "home" to where my parents are seems to be the only answer in my panicking mind. During the day I am fine, I love the city and our home, but once I am ready for bed my troubles start all over. What is wrong with me? I don't think an intelligent and educated adult should be having this much trouble with leaving home. Is this separation anxiety or something else?

Thanks,
Margaret

[suzi-q]

Separation anxiety can happen at any age whenever we separate from those whom we feel safe and love so much.  You must be very close to your parents (as I was, my parents passed away now) but as my therapist said many years ago to me when I was living home with them, we were very meshed into each others lives.  It is wonderful to be so close, but not very healthy.  I agree with tostressed. You need to adjust and make new friends and have your own life.  Give it time and there is always the telephone!  You will be fine...time will help and I think in the long run your will start thinking of your new place as "home", your safe place, like you do with your parents.

[tostressed]

Your probably still adjusting to moving away, and it is sad to you . Once you make friends and get adjusted then see how you feel. Your probably just lonely and the reason it hits you at night is because thats when you have time to think ablut it.