I know it's often easier said than done...just work on it...baby steps....I know you can do it!
Thank you for the words of encouragement, and advice. I stay so caught up in my own head I forget that everyone has struggles, to some degree or another, with many of the exact same issues that I do. I've started seeing a psychologist, which I believe will be helpful in getting additional supports.
mammo, I like your "Just go for it!" approach, and I do have days where that's easier said than done, but I think that as I push through the fears it will eventually become easier.
lynn57, I found that there is one primary source in my area which offers the type of community support that you mention, and they are currently booked solid. The area I live in desperately needs more resources, which I'm sure is true of many places. But as I say that, I realize that I haven't put forth enough effort to find out about every option possible...sometimes it's 'easier' for me to just stay unhappy than to really do something about it.
I work for an agency that has group homes as part of it's program. Sometimes they offer a situation where you live alone, but have weekly visits by a service coordinator. They organize any services you may need and work with you to find a job. There are supported employment jobs and sheltered workshops. Some of these places are non-profit organizations and some are operated by the state or county. I would see a social worker and try to find the right program for you. Your coordinator would help with counseling and doctor's appointments. Let us know if there is such a program in your area.