You brought your questions and concerns to us at the HIV Prevention Forum and were give the assessment that you had no risk........which is true.
You have also written to the Anxiety forum and been given excellent advice by anxiety860.........advice that also confirmed you had no risk.
Yesterday you sent me a PM to "help" you on the Anxiety Forum.
Both communities, as well as your doctor, have given you the correct assessment that you do NOT have HIV.......and you've been tested which gave you conclusive results that you are non-reactive. (NEGATIVE) There is, obviously, nothing else any of us can tell you that will rid you of your anxiety.
At this point I strongly urge you to seek therapy for your continued anxiety. Get a referral from your doctor for a therapist who is trained to deal with anxiety and preferably one who uses CBT.
We all hope you find peace of mind.
RubyWitch
Just went over our chat again. I forgot you already asked them.
This is what I can tell you. You have NOTHIG to fear when it comes to HIV. You had no risk. and you tested negative. That is great freaking news. You don't need to address HIV. What you need to address and get under control is your anxiety/fear over HIV. How to do this I'm not sure. What personally helped me was educating myself on the topic, believing doctors, realizing how rare it is. What didn't help me was getting multiple tests for reassurance. That only lasted a week or so.
I finally had to come to the conclusion and believe the facts. Not believe my anxiety which is always wrong.
Well you can always post your question in the HIV forum, see what they have to say.
How I got over my HIV fear was educating myself on the topic. The facts are if you have protected sex you won't get HIV
I really value your opinion anxiety860, but I'm starting to feel the anxiety again. I have developed a rash on my stomach and some peeling around my penis. I also have what feels like jock itch around my testicles. My headaches are still here and I've been waking up with moist underwear. Not drenched.
Does anyone else have am opinion on whether I could have contracted HIV or if I had a slight risk with what I have explained in my original post.
What's going on with me??? What can I do to help move forward?
Thank you.
My guess. The shame and guilt is causing you to feel guilty creating anxiety and thinking you got HIV from the experiences.
You have scientific proof saying that you do not have HIV (the test) . plus you had no risk.
You also cannot infect a child if you decide to have one because you have nothing to infect them with. You had a full std screening.
Another thing that may help you, HIV is very very rare. And actually very hard to contract. Less than 1% of Americans have the disease. Not sure about European countries.. But again you never had a risk so I suppose that information is a moot point
The best thing you can do is trust the test results and put this behind you. If you can't put it behind you therapy actually helps for these situations.
Thank you so much for your rapid response. After reading your answer several times it has made me feel a little better. I guess I needed some reassurance that I had no risk. Guilt could be the cause of my anxiety, but I think the thought of infecting my wife is killing me too. We also would like to have another child so the fear of infecting him/her is driving me nuts. I am not going to lie, my family is very active in our community so the shame is in my head as well. I will try to convince myself I am negative and move on.
Thanks again.
You're fine. The reason why they said you had no risk in the HIV forum is because you had no risk.
Risks included unprotected sex (you didn't have) sharing needles (you didn't do) or being born to a mother with HIV. You had no risk.
Next thing. No she didn't try to give you HIV by spreading that around your uretha. 1. HIV does not spread that way, 2 it doesn't survive outside the body in air and chances of infection many people say are 0. if I had to guess what she put on you I would guess it would be a sperm killer or something to lower std risks. Just my guess though.
HIV anxiety is all to common, but you've been tested you have nothing to worry about. I've been tested multiple times for HIV as I once had HIV anxiety and on my online medical chart it shows I wasn't tested for it. Some private policy or something I guess I can't fully remember.
Do you feel guilty about the experience? That could very well be leading to the anxiety.
What you need to remember is. 1. You had no risk. And 2. You tested negative.
You're ok