Why is it?

[Megs215]

Hello all, I have been feeling so well the last 2 weeks or so...the ruminating and all has subsided almost entirely!! But today I heard some very unsettling news about an old friend of mine. It makes me so uncomfortable & uneasy, I feel anxious over it. I havent spoken to this person in a very long time, Id say a few years but hearing what I heard today, scares me. I cannot wrap my head around it...and because of that, Im making myself nervous again...

I know this proably does not make any sense but someone please help. I dont want to think about this anymore. How do I make it better!!

[DJ873]

I get caught up in that too, i get freaked out when i hear bad news about someone or if someone is ill or died. I give myself a day to honor them and think whatever thoughts and then I move it to the background. You can't know what they are feeling and thinking and any amount of trying to understand or guess or for me, using the imagination, doesn't help them or you. It is called empathy. Anxiety sufferers are masters at this. We imagine what others must be feeling when in truth we really can't know.. This is one of those face the fear situations because in life sadly bad things do happen, people do get ill, people do die. I won't go into the story but i had a brother go thru something awful and is now in heaven. I spent time being angry, being afraid to see him, trying to feel his feelings to find out how wrong i was . When i got the guts to really talk with him, he was genuinely ok with his situation and not thinking or feeling all those things i imagined. It really is all in the outlook and attitude. Be well!