POSSIBLY ASPERGER'S?

[sissy7]

A FRIEND WAS TELLING ME ABOUT HER BROTHER THAT HAS ASPERGER'S. AFTER READING ABOUT THIS IT FITS MY 5 YR OLD GRANDSON THAT'S PUTTING HIS MOM, SCHOOL TEACHERS &  OTHER ADULTS  @ SCHOOL , FAMILY, ETC THROUGH THE WRINGER.HIS TEACHER, SCHOOL NURSE/PSY. HAVE SUGGESTED HE IS ADD OR SOMETHING SIMILAR. HE HASN'T BEEN TO A DR WITH THIS BECAUSE THE PED. HE WAS SEEING KEPT INSISTING HIS EYE SITE WAS FINE - UNTIL IT WAS CHECKED @ SCHOOL AND SENT FOR AN EYE EXAM WHICH SHOWED HE HAS 20/70 VISION! THIS HAS BEEN VERY RECENT AND SHE IS GETTING STARTED ON DOING ALL THE THINGS THE SCHOOL HAS RECOMMENDED.  NO INS.@ WORK  DOESN'T HELP MATTERS,EITHER
   MY MAIN QUESTION IS SIMPLE: CAN THIS CAUSE HIM TO REFUSE TO USE THE COMMODE AND HAVE B.M.'S IN HIS PANTS ? HE URINATES  IN THE COMMODE,STILL. I SAY STILL BECAUSE HE WAS GOING TO THE COMMODE AND JUST ALL AT ONCE REFUSED AND HAS USED HIS PANTS SINCE. HE HAS NO INDICATION OF ANY TYPE OF ABUSE,RASH, OR ANYTHING THAT WOULD BE A SIMPLE EXPLANATION. ANY THOUGHTS OR ADVICE WILL BE A MAJOR HELP AND GREATLY APPRECIATED.

[Sally44]

Toileting problems are common under many different diagnosis.  I agree with the other two posts.  List your concerns and ask for a multi-disciplinary team assessment.  My son is 7 with autism but he was toilet trained at the age of 3.  However I can't get him out of his rigid routine of having to have me check he has wiped his bottom okay, but I am hoping to break that routine before he is adult!!  Also he cannot urinate standing up.  I think this is a sensory difficulty in his ability to understand internal feelings such as hungry/thirstly/full etc.  He somehow cannot relax the muscles standing up.
If you have concerns, keep going to see the professionals until you get an answer.  I had a gut feeling things weren't right from the age of 2+.  But all the professionals I saw told me the behaviour I was concerned about (not talking, repeating TV dialogue) was normal for boys.  But as soon as he started school all the professionals were called in within 6 months because he just couldn't cope in that environment.

[berly4909]

First off eye sight has nothing to do with autism .My autistic son has wonderful eyesight and so does many others I know. Did your daughter/daughter in law  try to get medicaid from state for child? My son has Aspergers Syndrome and still wears diapers,he is almost 5, I know kids in their teens with autism  that are also still in diapers and there are others with autism that are potty trained too. ADHD and Autism are very similar I had a friend that has a daughter and they first tried to diagnose her with Autism and now find out its just ADHD  but Autistic kids can also have other disorders too like ADHD and bi-polar and so on... The mother also needs to insist they evaluate the child. My son's doctor just kept saying " Oh he's just a typical boy and stuff and when my other son was making more progress with development I insisted that they get him evaluated and sure enough he was diagnosed with Autism!

[sissy7]

THE DR. DID  A 'WELL CHILD'  SCHOOL  CHECK UP JUST AS SHE'D DONE HIS WELL BABY ONES WHEN HE'D GET HIS SHOTS N STUFF. THAT'S THE POINT ~ WHY WASN'T THIS EYE PROBLEM ADDRESSED UNTIL HE WAS IN SCHOOL !?! AND, IN MY THINKING , IF SHE MISSED SOMETHING LIKE THE VISION WHAT ELSE WAS MISSED !!!
  THANKX FOR THE OTHER INFO.

[mjthewriterdad]

The school can do an eval free of charge provided they get a refferal letter from someone (maybe you).  Anyone can make a refferal, it doesn't have to be a doctor.  I just don't understand why vision is the only thing the doctor checked?

Just detail your concerns and ask for a multi-disciplinary team evaluation.  Be concise and address the letter to the local school district office attention special education dept.