Anyone else go through this?

[zzzmykids]

I have seen both children/now adults, go off to college.  Come home.  Stay awhile then move far away.
The leaving highschool and going to college on the other side of the country was hard.  The oldest leaving after getting married and then coming home with her husband and living with us was difficult, then good by the time they bought their own home.  Then the younger one was staying away at school in summers to complete faster.  She came home and has been with us for six months. Her sister, husband and two children moved in as well....don't ask.
Now all of them are leaving.  The youngest getting married and the oldest and her husband and kids will move back into their home....that was rented out as they were buying another home which may not come through.
They are all gone tonight, oldest will finish moving them out by next weekend. Our youngest will probably move in with them until she gets married.
I am sad. I feel weird.  I did this before!  I did this three times with the oldest and twice with the youngest.  I don't want to do this again.
Anyone feel this way or been through this?  Now with the economy lots are moving in with eachother but darn it, when they leave after you get used to having the noise of laughter of grandkids, seeing your daughters daily.  Anyone feel so sad and wonder if you will bottom out?  This is not fun.
zzzmykids

[zzzmykids]

Dear opus88,
Sorry forgot to say what we did that the SWIMMING is what we did this morning. lol
Also, I liked seroquel but swelled up feet and ankles and I felt like I was so mentally clear that I was mentally speeding....manic.  I am rarely manic and it has taken it's toll even though I am off seroquell and getting off of it was awful.
zzzmykids

[zzzmykids]

I hope you son gets balanced.  We did something this morning before church that we have not done for ages.  We all go to different churches.  I have musicians as daughters and they are involved elsewhere.  We go to an hour away...where we used to live.
I'm not better this morning, have vertigo and lol went swimming diving in, kinda foolish.
Tell Tyler you know someone who without the support of daughters and husband and grandbabies and intimate friendships, I'd be on my sisters or brothers doorstep....and then I would feel like a loser....I rarely see them as it is. They are "normal" and extremely smart and as Mom says I got the pretties....great for feeling confident, eh?
Thank you for writing back, thank you for reminding me I do have lots of support.  The relationships are healthy just going back to being the way they should be and this HOUSE ia huge, it is already lonely.  Maybe we will down size....naw that's not our personality.  I will soon get my room back that is my art room, my room that has all the history of my husband's family and my room that is my sides history in pictures and our game room to play air hockey and work out.  The babies...grandbabies, have their own visitiing room and soon it will just have their special go to "momo's and tappa's  house stuff, not their home.
Enjoy the day, I am going to be rapid today.
zzzmykids

[opus88]

I understand completely what u mean...
my daughter and grandaughter r only 2 hrs away, I see them abt 3x a yr(long story)..
my grandson is 6hrs away...I see him on school holidays..he is coming for the summer!!!
his dad(my son tyler) is again living with me while he has another CRASH...and I feel so darn grateful to have him...but it always adds to his guilty for needing me again and living at home at 38 yrs old...he feels like a looser as he puts it...but it is only temporay while he gets back on his feet and I have confidence in him that he will!
I too go through my own depression for a long time aft he leaves, I am so fortunate that we have always gotten along so well and I sure miss his company when he leaves....
hang in there zzz.....be glad u do have your husband and some of your children/grandchildren near u thats means so much to us mothers!